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  • Reminder for Sunday, August 2, 2015, 18th Ordinary Time

      Emma 1

                                  Says Emma, "Hi, Everybody."

     

     

    Welcome: Catholic Mass with coffee and juice and pastries, both bought and home-made, after Mass.

    Time: 9:30; Celebrate with the Community & Stack.

    Place: Vines High School, Plano, 15th between Custer & Independence.

     

     

    Harper 3
     

                          Says Harper, "You got any extra cupcakes?"

     

    Readings:

     Exodus 16, 2-4, 12-15 You had to lead us into this desert to make the whole community die of famine.

    Psalm 78,    The Lord gave them bread from heaven.

    Ephesians 4, 17-24,   You must no longer live as the Gentiles do.

    John 6, 24-35 I am the bread of life. 

     

      Leo
    Says Leo, "Be nice to me and I bet I can get you a cupcake, Harper."

     

    Community Activities:  

    1.        ROMEO MEET: Friday, July 31, Jason's Deli, Collin Creek Mall, west side of Central, 1:00.   Ragbrai stories for cookies.

     2.      LADIES' LUNCHEON,  August 6, Thursday, 1:00 P.M.,  Big Shucks, 103 S. Coit, Richardson, between Beltline and Spring Valley.

    Everyone, please forward to anyone you think would be interested.  If you let me know I will add their email to the list. 

    Carol 

     

    Zoe

                              Zoe looks at The Gang with awe.

     

     3.  Ray and Shonda have some new Mass responses (Mass of Glory) that they would like for us to practice for a few weeks before Mass before we sing it during the Mass proper.  You can check out these utube sites to hear them: 

    http://youtu.be/mGlpu6_c3gQ

    http://youtu.be/wYAikjow24E

    http://youtu.be/k6Qjsxq8dU4

     

      Brandon

                                    Brandon and his momma.

     

    What is going on in our Catholic World:

    1.       Francis fires two more bishops, National Catholic Reporter, July 15, 567 words,   Download Francis dumps two bishops 7-30-15    

     2.      Phillippine Church embraces Francis' environment vision, National Catholic Reporter, July 25, 765 words,       Download Philippine Church 7-31-15

      Genevieve & Mary

    Genevieve says, "Wanna bet I don't weigh 5 pounds any more." 

     

    True?  

    This is my simple religion.  There is no need for temples.  No need for complicated philosophy.  Our brain, our own heart is our temple.  The philosophy is kindness.

    Dalai Lama

      Emma & Zoe & Buddy

                         I think I see a philosophy of kindness.

     

     See you this Sunday.

    J.S., 214-783-0443

     

    John & Kevin & Georgie
     "Okay, let's get serious.  Enough of this having a good time."

     

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement

    Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for and challenges spiritual and total growth.

    Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged and make the world we live in a better place to live.

     

      Music

     

                  Our temple is filled with music, beautiful music.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Sunday Homily, July 12, 2015, 15th Easter, B

    Readings:

     Amos 7, 12-15  I was no prophet.  I was a shepherd.

    Psalm 85,    Lord, let us see you kindness and grant us your salvation.

    Ephesians 1, 3-14, In love he destined us for adoption

     Mark  6, 7-13, Take nothing for the journey but a walking stick

     

    Kevin

                          Says Kevin, "Welcome in, Everybody."

     

    Amos  observations:

    Author: Amos or his scribe.  He was a shepherd of sheep & tended sycamore trees.  One of the 12 minor prophets of the OT, minor because of smallness of the works.  Amos has only 9 chapters.  Usual pattern of prophets: 1. predictions of dire times for evil behavior; 2. predictions of better times in the future. 

    Date: Ca. 777 (a memory help), after the kingships of David & Solomon, time of King Jeroboam of the northern kingdom, called Israel vs the southern kingdom, called Judah (where Jerusalem is).   

     

      Harper

                              And from Harper, too, "Hi, Folks."

     

    Geography: Note the two kingdoms, Judah in the south, Israel in the north.  Amos tended sheep in a little town called Tekoa, 10 miles south of Jerusalem, in Judah, the south.  He is sent by Yahweh to Bethel, a small but important town in the northern kingdom, 10 miles north of Jerusalem, to warn the people of Israel & their king Jeroboam that Yahweh was mad at them.  The wicked high priest of Bethel, Amaziah condemns Amos for his interference.

    The Setting: a time of prosperity.  But Yahweh is mad at the greed of the wealthy and their oppression of the poor (which ties into our gospel talking about walking lightly through life).  We know the people of this kingdom of Israel are headed for annihilation by the Assyrian nation.  And they will disappear as a significant body.  

    Our Selection, chapter 7:  Amos describes three visions or dreams he has.  Amaziah gives it to him for spreading these visions around.  Then, Amos responds and socks it to Amaziah with a hammer.

      Brooklyn-Sienna 1

              And from Sienna, "From Brooklyn and me, Welcome."

     

    Take Nothing for the Journey

    I apologize this morning for telling you a story that some of you will probably remember.  However, the event so speaks to the gospel this morning that I can not pass it up.  Another African story.

    One evening in Tanzania I boarded an overnight train in Dar es Salaam, the capital.  I would get off in the region near Kilimajaro where the Jesuit house was that I used as a base when I was not on the road giving seminars or retreats. 

     

    Cupcakes

           Some of The Cupcakes of The Week gang for this week.

     

    I had bought my ticket just the afternoon of the trip.  No compartments were available, which were not much anyway.  Two shared the compartment and an upper bunk came down.  You had to be careful in the little stations, because thieves would look in the window and grab.  So, no big loss.

    I had to take general booking.  This entitled me to a place on the train, not necessarily a seat.  It is not air conditioned and can be a bit warm. 

     

      Offertory

               Offertory with Mike and Judy, Sydney and Hugh.

     

    I started out sitting on a suitcase I traveled with.  There were mothers with little kids and a few chickens all around my area at the end of a train car.   I expected it would be a long night, but I would get where I wanted to go and then sleep extra.

    About midnight the train stopped, like in the middle of nowhere.  We sit there.  No explanation, nothing.   I finally join others getting off.  I lie down on the rocks on the edge of the track, my case under my head so no one would snatch it, and wait.  And wait.  We sit there with no explanation until about 7:00 the next evening. 

     

      Wendy-Collin

                          Wendy and Collin providing The Best.

     

    Just like Mark recommends in the gospel today, I had boarded that train with nothing to drink or eat.  Looking back, I cannot believe I was so stupid.  Normally I would never have set out without water. 

    Why did I not ask the Tanzanian ladies for a drink?  I could easily talk Swahili with them.  Trouble was, they did not often purify their water and I was afraid of it.   So there I sat, now in the shade.  I look around.  Everyone on that train is Tanzanian.  I am the only white guy, which by then I am at home with.

     

      Elevation

                                                 Elevation.

     

    Suddenly I see up the track maybe 4 or 5 cars ahead of me a white couple.  They have extra water.  Hooray.  They are Germans, but speak English with no problem.

    We hang out.  They saved me, and let me tell you a quickie about how I saved them.

    We were seated in the shade of a Frangipani tree I can still clearly remember.  All the passengers were seated along the train in the shade.  Next to us was a momma with her baby.  At one point the momma gets up and goes into the train.

     

      Emma & Mom

                              Emma and Beth solving the World's problems.

     

    The German guy who was about 6 foot 4 inches gets up and takes a picture of the baby.  Bad move.  Someone on the train sees him, tells the momma, she tells her husband, and he comes out yelling with a bunch of people.  He wants the camera.  He wants to take the German to the police, wherever that might be.

    So, I stepped in.  We all sat down under the trees and I talked.   I finally got the father to allow the German to go to his compartment, cut off the baby’s picture, and give it to the man. 

     

      Emma 2

                             Emma with one of her Best Buddies.

     

    He cuts off just the end of the film, brings it back, and gives it to the man.  The crisis comes to an end. 

    I ended up climbing Kilimanjaro with the couple, which ended up being amusing.  He was an Alpine Mountain rescue expert, like a 4 on a 5 scale.  He could crawl across your ceiling holding on with his fingernails.  When we got to the top of Kilimanjaro he got altitude sickness and I carried his back pack.  Of course, I teased him mercilessly. 

      Harper 2

                                     Harper dancing to the music.

     

    I never saw them again, although they were begging me to come to Germany on one of my homeward trips.  I wanted to see the Berlin wall and never did.  She was East German, he West.

    The story simply tries to show how literal reading of the Bible can get you into bad places. 

    What  would you suggest is a positive in this story about traveling with nothing? Could this be what Francis is emphasizing when he talks about Less is Better

    How is Less Better for you?

     

     

                   

  • Reminder for Sunday, July 12, 2015, 15th Ordinary Time

     

    Welcome: Catholic Mass with coffee and juice and pastries, both bought and home-made, after Mass.

    Time: 9:30; Celebrate with the Community & Stack.

    Place: Vines High School, Plano, 15th between Custer & Independence.

      Emma helping Beth

    Emma figures she will help her mom just in case Beth needs her.  What a gift, how at home she feels.

     

    Readings:

     Amos 7, 12-15  I was no prophet.  I was a shepherd.

    Psalm 85,    Lord, let us see you kindness and grant us your salvation.

    Ephesians 1, 3-14, In love he destined us for adoption

     Mark  6, 7-13, Take nothing for the journey but a walking stick

      Healing

                                      The Sacrament of Healing

     

    Community Activities:  

    1.        ROMEO MEET: Friday, July 10, Jason's Deli, Collin Creek Mall, west side of Central, 1:00.   Welcome back,  CO Campers.

     2.      LADIES' LUNCHEON,  August 6, Thursday, 1:00 P.M.,  Steve Fields Steak & Lobster Lounge, 503 West Park Blvd.

    Everyone, please forward to anyone you think would be interested.  If you let me know I will add their email to the list. 

    Carol 

      Offertory

                        Offertory, Mary, Louis, Mary Jane, and John

     

    What is going on in our Catholic World:

    1.       Catholicism & gay marriages, America, June 26, 850 words,     Download Catholicism & Gay Marriage 7-9-15

     2.      Francis in Ecuador, National Catholic Reporter, July 5, 900 words,      Download Francis in Ecuador 7-9-15

    3.      Chilean bishop rejected by the people, National Catholic Reporter, July 7, 1000 words,    Download Controversial Chilean bishop 7-9-15

     

      The Gang

                   The Gang, Denni, Connie, John, Tom, & Rosemary

     

    True?  

     “Hatred is love frustrated.”

                                                                    Ashley Montagu 

      Communion

                      Communion, Cindy receiving the bread she baked

     

    See you Sunday, July 12, 2015, 15th Ordinary Time

    J.S., 214-783-0443

     

    Emma communion
                               Communion for All, Emma receives

     

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement

       Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for and challenges spiritual and total growth.

        Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged and make the world we live in a better place to live.

      Peace

                                                  Peace, Everyone 

     

     

     

     

  • Reminder for Sunday, May 24, 2015, Pentecost

      Vivian Grace

    Guess who has arrived, Everybody!   Welcome into Our World, Vivian Grace.  You are beautiful and perfect.  Tell your mommy & daddy, "Congratulations."  Arrival was Tuesday, 8 lbs.

     
     

    Welcome: Catholic Mass with coffee and juice and pastries, both bought and home-made, after Mass.

    Time: 9:30; Celebrate with the Community & Stack and Mike homilizing.

    Place: Vines High School, Plano, 15th between Custer & Independence.

      Genevieve

    Genevieve, too, says, "Hi, Vivian, Welcome.  But, guess what, I got more hair than you."

     

    Readings:

    Ruth 1,  15—17, 20-26,  The story of Naomi and Ruth

    Psalm 104,    Lord, send out our Spirit, and renew the face of the earth.

    1 Corinthians 12, 3-13,   There are different kinds of spiritual gifts, but the same spirit.

     John 15, 26-27 & 16, 12-15, When he comes, he will guide you to all truth.

     

      Annabelle 2

     And Annabelle says, "Hey, don't forget me.  And I am older than you two.  A little respect, please."

     

    Community Activities:        

    1.      ROMEO MEET: Friday, May, The Twenty Second, Jason's Deli, Collin Creek Mall, west side of Central, 1:00.   We also welcome the Working Classes, especially if you pick up the tab for the Old Guys.

     2.      LADIES' LUNCHEON,  June 4, Thursday, Papadeaux, 725 S. Center (East side, the side the sun comes up), 1:00.  It was heard that Cathy is covering set ups. 

    Everyone, please forward to anyone you think would be interested.  If you let me know I will add their email to the list. 

    Carol 

     

    Play station 2

    It won't be long, you little girls, until you will be joining at the play station these big kids, Buddy, Emma, Zoe, and Victoria.

     

    What is going on in our Catholic World:

    1.       Get rid of megaparishes,  National Catholic Reporter,  Mat 13,  727 words,       Download Megaparishes 5-21-15

    2.     Francis and Bishop Romero of El Salvador,  National Catholic Reporter, May 19, 1555 words,    Download Francis & Bishop Romero 5-21-15    

     

    Eshelbrenner Clan
                       Eshelbrenner Clan with Richard leading the parade.

     

     True?  

    Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.

    Steve Jobs (Who?)

     

    Biedas
                            
     Welcome Back, Kim and Travis

     

    See you Sunday, May 24, 2015, Pentecost,  Cycle B

    J.S., 214-783-0443

     

    Offertory
     Offertory with Mary Ellen (just moved back to Dallas from CT), Grace, Alison and John.

     

     JSM Mission-Faith Statement

       Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for and challenges spiritual and total growth.

        Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged and make the world we live in a better place to live.

      Blessing 2

     May you be blessed, too, along with Annabelle, Oscar, Gloria, and Eric.

     

     

     

  • Sunday Homily, January 18, 2015, 2nd Ordinary Time, B

     

    Readings:  January 18, 2015

    1 Samuel 3,  3-19,  Go to sleep, and if you are called, reply, “Speak, Lord, your servant is listening.”

    Psalm 40,    Here I am, Lord, I come to do your will.

    1 Corinthians 6, 13-1517-20,   Your body is a temple of the Spirit within you.

    John 1, 35-42,   What are you looking for?

     

     

    Buddy

    Buddy says, "Wow, Look what I got at the Stuff Swap."


     

    1 Samuel observations:

    What: 4 books about 4 big leaders of the People, Samuel & Saul, David & Solomon.  1 & 2 Samuel, 1 & 2 Kings.

    Who: Samuel is the first big leader of the people.  He is a judge and the last.  The following 3 are kings of the people, Saul, David, and Solomon. 

    Time:  The events take place ca. 1100-1000 before Christ.  The compilation & recording of the events takes place ca. 555 before Christ.  Sound familiar?  Babylonian Captivity

     

    Zoe

    Who is that with a new, slightly used skooter?

     

    Today's Selection: Yahweh is calling Samuel in a dream.  This ties in with the Gospel where three future apostles are called.  Samuel's mother was Hannah, and she is famous because of a touching story about how she came to have Samuel.  

    I had the story of King David read the Sunday before Christmas and I talked about Samuel.

    Hannah, Samuel's mother,  had promised Yahweh that she would dedicate to the temple her son, if she got one.  Consequently, our selection finds Samuel residing in the temple with Eli the prophet.  He would be about 12 years old.

    Be aware that while these marvelous stories are mythological, the writer is attempting to convey to a simple people lessons in trust in Yahweh.

    The Samuel reading, the Psalm, and the Gospel are all about call.  I would like to talk about this at homily.   As the Psalm says, "I come to do your will."  What is that?  What if it is just being  peaceful? 

     

    Zoe 2

    Wow, I think that is our Beautiful Zoe.

     

     Big Calls and Little Calls

    Like I mentioned, I would like to talk about calls this morning.  I would observe that there are big calls and little calls.  A big call would be like my call to go work in Tanzania and East Africa.  A little call could be like this.  Our story of the week.

    So I go to the J this past Friday morning, the Jewish Community Center.  You know I go there Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays for a 6 o’clock spin class.  The room has 25 stationary bikes and often the majority are occupied. 

     

    Tori

    And then there is our Beautiful Victoria cruising the stuff swap.

     

    I had not been to the spin class since the Monday 10-12 days before.  I had a low grade, almost cold during the cold cloudy period and I just could not get it to go away.  One of the things I do to get ahead of a cold, beside heat and hydration, is rest.  I do no exercise and I force myself to lie down for an hour in the morning and in the afternoon. 

    I knew what it was going to take and it did.  The sun came out Thursday, the temperature moderated, and, voila, the cold disappeared.  I could not wait for Friday morning.

     

    Cupcakes

    Cupcakes of The Week for Ray & Claire at 44 and Kevin at 18.

    So I get there, say, ten minutes early.  I walk in, say hi to the lady who gives me a locker key for the change room and a towel.  I walk into the change room and say hi to two other old geezers I like to joke with.  

    All this time I am expecting that someone, at least the lady at the entrance, might say, “Where you been?  I’ve missed you.”  No, nothing, not even the two old geezers.

     

    Kevin at 18

    Happiness is a Cupcake of The week at 18.

    So I walk down the hall and enter the spin room about 5:50.  Perhaps 8 people are there, including a lady who always rides on the bike immediately to my left. 

    She is doing pre-ride exercises on the floor.  I say hi to her and talk with two guys I like, younger guys.  Yep, you guessed it.  No word about me being gone.  I was deflated.  I like the spin classes, but I equally like the people and I know pretty nearly everyone by name.  In fact, when I first started coming, people would just walk in, get on a bike, and start riding without a word to anybody.  Now I greet everyone and it seems like people are talking more. 

     

    Jeanie & Jack

    Jeanie & Jack with a welcome back cupcake, checking on their daughter, Wendy.

     

    Eventually I just told people I had been gone almost two weeks because of a faint cold.  Then I had a couple of people say they had noticed I had not been around. 

    The temptation?   Baloney on those people.  I have liked them, greeted them, and told them that I missed them when I noted that they had been gone, even for one class.  It is easy for me to notice, because the majority use the same bike each class.   I know some of them were flattered when I noticed.

     

    Wendy & Bethany

    Anad guess who, Wendy and Bethany with Vivian on the way.

     

    That’s the temptation.  What’s the call?  Even a little call.  I think the call to me, at least, is to continue to greet these folks, to chat them up, and, yes, to tell them I missed them when they are gone for a class or two.  People are worth more than my deflation.

    So, be sure to tell Rosemary and me how much you missed us the next time we are away for a week.  Only so much deflation I can handle, and you know Rosemary.

    How do you handle being deflated like this?

     

    Communion helpers

    Our great Communion helpers.

     

  • Announcements

    Rosemary's Blessing:                                  

    Next time.  Santa arrived. 

    Want to read a good Christmas story:   Download A Christmas Story 12-26-14

     

     

    Rick

    Richard reading the beautiful Isaiah 9.

     

    Our Special Thanks:  

    •    For  the Readings:  The Froebes, Richard, Morgan, and Monica
    •    For The Team:   Kevin & Georgie 
    •    For the Communion Bread:  Claire
    •    For the Wine & Cups:  Judy & Dick
    •    For the Pictures & Video:   Rick &  Mike, John & Connie & Beth
    •    For the coffee and extras:   none this day
    •    For the altar & sound: Jackie & Hue
    •    For the Music:  Ray & Shonda & Wendy
    •    For all who helped with communion, all 20 of you

     

    Morgan

    Morgan reading Titus 3.

     

     

    Birthdays:   Diane Holcomb ( Sunday); Amanda Baack (Monday); T.J. Gleason (Wednesday); Robyn Pack (57, Thursday); Hugh Bivona (Friday)

    Anniversaries:

    Tom and Teresa Quinn (47th, Tuesday)

     

     

    Monica

    Monica reading Luke's Nativity.

     

     

     Please Remember these special people:

    For three of our greatest friends and supporters who died this year, Fred, Curtis, and Chuck, last year, for them and their families.

    For Jamie Wilson in the hospital;  The Quinn’s granddaughter, Mikayla; For Fred, our buddy and supporter for years, who moved to the other side recently;    For Curtis, another buddy and longtime supporter, who  died recently, and for the family;    For Bethany & for the coming of her Little Visitor;    for Jackie Urbanczyk's continued recovery; for Beth's sister, Katy, in Baylor;  For Rita;  Mike & Dee Miller's daughter, Lisa, not doing well;    for Nina Tucker's dad;    Judy Thompson's dad in the hospital;  John Cade's mother in law, Kalliopi Piskiouli;  Charlie's brother in law with cancer;  Beth Dugan's dad struggling with prostate cancer;  from Rob, the brother of his business associate who has cancer;   For Diane Drescher with a bad back & hips;  

     

    Ryan

    A U.T. fan? Yes, Ryan.

     

     

    Frank’s sister, Grace Campos, 84, with stage one;   For Jackie;  Diane McClurg's mom having a hard time making the transition to assisted living;   Dee's friend, Don Fox, with cancer;   Dick Thompson's daughter, Teri Jill & her cousin Terri.  Barb & Warren's grandbabies, Leighton Elizabeth and Warren Phillip, & their friend Chris, plus Barb's dad & niece.

     

    Gerald-Frank

    Good old friends & buddies, Gerald and Frank.


     

    Bernadette Delgado's mom; Gilberto's mom and brother; Tom and Teresa Quinn's niece, Chawna, with cancer, plus Neva Flynn, Angel, and Diane Kreeitzer; Connie Doherty's mom and her sister, plus Kevin's cousin, Peter;  for Mary Ellen; for our friends, sons, and daughters in the military, including Cole Carey, Ryan McClurg, and Chebino; cure for autism from Laura Chollick; for our President that he have great success and someday hold his grandchildren in his lap.

     

    Meals 3

    Meals on Wheels, Christmas Day, a huge operation.

     

     

    Your Finances, December 24

    Expenses:   $6010.00

    Outreach:   $2747.00

    Thanks for your Generosity.

     

    Video:  The Great Nativity Drama, 4 minutes,

     

       

     

    Have a Good Week, J.S

    (214-783-0443)

      

    Meals

    Meals on Wheels, volunteers loading cars of those delivering the meals.

     

     

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement  

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People,  provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth.  

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world  we live in a better place to live

     

    Meals 2

    Meals on Wheels, a car loader and cheer leader.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Special Notice for this Sunday, December14,2014

    This Sunday we are collecting items for the Dallas Area Rape Crisis Center (DARCC).  We just got an updated list from John Cade on what items DARCC needs.
     
    Sweatshirts and pants in gender neutral colors 
    Socks and slippers 
    Underwear small sizes
     
    They also need some office supplies:
    Reams of 8 1/2 by 11 white paper
    Mechanical pencils 
    Ball point pens in black/ blue or red 
     
     
    Coloring books, colors or colored pencils for waiting room. 
     
    They do not not need toiletries of any kind.
     
    Thanks everyone.
  • Sunday Homily Addition, September 7, 2014, 23rd Ordinary Time

    Here is the homily for Sunday.

    Ezekiel

    Ezekiel was the third great prophet with Isaiah and Jeremiah, because this author’s book is big like theirs, divided into 48 chapters.  Ezekiel is called by God to warn the Israelite people of their coming punishment and banishment to Babylon because of their infidelity to God and his law.  Ezekiel starts out about 600 years before Jesus lived and before the Babylonian captivity. Ezekiel’s prophecies continue through the captivity and the return of the Jewish people to Israel.

                                                                                  

    Homily

    The book of Ezekiel is about warning people to get it together. The Gospel story has a similar directive to warn or confront a friend of their need for correction.  I want to say a word about that difficult directive.  The formula given in Matthew is 1) By yourself, speak your hurt to your friend and try to work it out; 2) take one or two others and confront your friend; and 3) take it to the community for mediation.  The smartest statement in Matthew may be admitting that these three steps might not achieve the desired end, and then you start over from scratch (or you drop it).  The point I want to make is that human relationship is probably the most difficult thing we do as humans and that healing hurt is what we’re all about.

    An example is a personal case I have talked about before, between my sisters and me.   

    1) Two of my sisters felt hurt and upset by each other’s actions in regards to our sister Carol’s care in a nursing home. Our older sister had been in charge of managing Carol’s care.  The sister who lives in the town where Carol’s nursing home was visited Carol and checked up on her every day. The older sister and the local sister didn’t seem able to speak respectfully to or listen well with each other. Often they would cancel out one another’s directives about Carol’s care. So Step 1 didn’t really happen.

    2) Their inability to connect work together as co-caregivers led to step 2 and my involvement. Our older sister asked me to be present at a meeting with the local sister and our youngest sister, and an ombudsman representing Carol. This was an awkward meeting.  Since the home had complained about the local sister’s intrusive and disruptive behavior at the home, and threatened to ask us to remove Carol from the home, I and our youngest sister sided with our older sister in the matter. In theory this meeting had the potential of bringing us together for Carol’s sake.  In reality the process pitted two sisters and a brother against Carol’s local sister and set limits on that sister’s behavior as regards the nursing home and its staff.  No real listening to one another happened.

    3) That takes us to Step 3: As Catholic Christians we no longer have a tradition of taking one’s hurts to the church community for mediation.  That venue in this time is the court.  Carol’s local sister took the matter to the court and she ultimately gained legal management over Carol’s care.  This result was probably beneficial to Carol as the push and pull about her welfare and treatment ended, and Carol’s local sister continued to visit and care for her till Carol died 1½ years ago. The family breach, however, hardened, and my sisters remain estranged from one another. 

     

    Do I think I am alone in having family hurts that remain unresolved?  No, I don’t. In 44 years as a counselor, I have known many relationships that are stuck in their hurt.  Do I lose hope for them or for my own family relationships?  No I don’t.  Today’s second reading from Paul to the Romans, is a clue to our hope: everything is summed up by love, and there’s no accounting for how or when love will find expression. Period.

    Finally, going back to Ezekiel, near the end of his book (in Chapter 37) Ezekiel talks about God’s promise, when times were the darkest, to raise up the people of Israel and help them get it together and walk back to their promised land.  His point was that, even if we are dead and gone and our bones are dried up, even then God is with us raising us up. Ezekiel’s poetic words were turned into a spiritual I remember singing as a child: “Dem bones, dem bones, dem dry bones….I hear the Word of the Lord” …  your toe bone connected to your foot bone, your foot bone connected to your ankle bone….

     

    My question for you is: Who has been Ezekiel in your life, confronting you and giving you hope in stuck times?

    And when have you been the Ezekiel in someone else’s life?