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Sunday Homily, June 7, 2015, Corpus Christi, B

Readings:

Exodus  24,  3-8,  We will do everything that the Lord has told us.

Psalm 116,    I will take the cup of salvation, and call on the name of the Lord.

Hebrews 9, 11-15,   He is mediator of the new covenant.

 Mark  14, 12-16, 22-26, While they were eating, he took bread and said the blessing.

                                                                                                

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The Wedding of Sarah & Beth (Rosemary's niece), Saturday, Mechanicsburg, PA, United Church of Christ, with ministers Karen and John, plus about 200 friends and supporters.

 

Todays readings talk about God’s love for his people, in Exodus about Moses and in Mark about Jesus’ expressions of love with his friends.  The words of Jesus (“This is my body”; “this is my blood)” were an established ritual formula repeated in early Christian gatherings as part of their remembrance of Jesus and the Passover he shared with them before he died.  Mark’s Gospelwas the first, written about 25-30 years after Jesus’ death.  Even before Mark, Paul was writing in his letters about our being the body of Christ and about our being intimately united with him.

In the homily I want to take this opportunity to talk some about special human relationships, couples in partnership or marriage.  

 

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Two very hospitable ministers, Karen & John.  Note the bare feet, out of reverence for the sanctuary.

 

Homily:   Last Sunday Stack talked about relationship and how Christian theology refers to God one, and yet as Father, Son and Holy Spirit, three persons in relationship.  After I planned to talk about Corpus Christi today, I spent over 8 hours yesterday at a workshop with over 200 couples.  Most of them were married couples married anywhere from only 4 months to 45 years; some were engaged. The event is called “Safe  Conversation” and is led by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt.  

It is based on the new science of couple relationships or marriage.  

1)  Brain science:  At the time scientists had already mapped out the known world on the outside, Sigmund Freud was mapping out the inner world, the human mind and the unconscious.  His emphasis was on the individual.  It wasn’t till the 1990’s that neuroscientists began to map the brain and better understand its workings, especially the notion of neuroplasticity, that the brain is changeable by means of the thoughts we run through it.  

The brain has a ‘mind of its own’.   The lower/primitive brain (brain stem) is in place to protect and defend (like a crocodile).  Anxiety and fear are triggered when any  danger is sensed.  Can order production of cortisol and adrenalin to help protect and defend, and from which we can experience fear and anxiety.  The higher/newer brain (frontal cortex) is in place to think and analyze, cooperate and create (like a wise owl).   Can order production of endorphins, dopamine from which we can experience joy.  

 

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                                                          Leo, the candle lighter at work.

                                                                                                                        

2)  Marriage research: We now know you can’t effectively help a couple in relationship by trying to ‘fix’ one of partners; rather, must provide healing work on the space between the partners, the relationship behaviors themselves.  We also know that negativity is a high predictor of relationship distress and of risk for divorce. Negativity is a natural stage of relationship, when we wake up and find out our partner is different from us or doesn’t match our ideal dream partner.

3)  Safe Conversation:  The key component, which anyone can learn, is to practice ‘safe conversation’ again and again and again and again.  Safe conversation provides what it implies, safety.  It calms the crocodile and reduces negativity.  It does this through the structure of the conversation. This allows the couple to again experience deep joy and aliveness as they did in the first stage of their relationship.

Question:   Are you up to date on the new science of relationship?  And How are you at eliminating negativity in your relationships? These couple workshops are provided currently with no fee, and include childcare and breakfast and lunch.  In addition there are child and teen programs offered at the same time so families are on same page in the process. Stack posted information on the last two workshops in his blog.I don’t know when the next one will be, but I invite you to look at their  web site – www.familywellnessdallas.org

 

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    Readings: Isaiah 55, 10-11; Psalm 65; Romans 8, 18-23; Matthew 13, 1-23


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    • Second, the rocks symbolize our middle class obsession with stuff, toys, things. We have to have the latest thing, the biggest, the best.
    • Thirdly, the thorns may symbolize the fact that I hear the wrong message. I pick up that I am bad, like I learned when I was a little kid.

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    Say, I have the self image that I am bad.  If I am already bad, why make an effort.  Certainly, I don’t incline toward gratitude.  I do incline, however, toward toys & stuff.  The toys are medication for my disappointment in myself.  If I have enough toys, I think that others will think I am hot stuff. 


    I was into toys as a teen.  No doubt.  One of the best things that happened was when I joined the Jesuits, I let go of it all.  I had no possessions to impress others with.  None of us in my class had possessions.  We were just guys. 


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    How do I break this cycle?  I think I can intervene anywhere along the process.  I can focus on gratitude, I can detach from stuff & toys, and I can work on self acceptance.  Maybe all at the same time.  That is getting the message.


    The beauty about all this is that ultimately, wherever I am, I am okay.  I am accepted.  I am not riding the express train to hell.  Jesus presents us with ultimate demands, and ultimate acceptance.


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     Psalm 89,    Forever I will sing the goodness of the Lord.

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    Date: Bible scholars consider the 4 books to be a compilation of a bunch of sources, beginning around 800 before Christ and finally coming together as a whole, guess when, yes, the Babylonian Captivity, 555 before Christ.

    Today's selection:  2 characters, King David and Nathan, the prophet.  David is now king and wants to build a temple for God.  Nathan says that God does not want a temple, but that God, nevertheless,  will bless him, his family, and the people.  The temple will be built eventually by David's son, Solomon.  This is chapter 7 today.  Chapter 6 is good, but 11 is one of my most favorite chapters in the bible.  In our homily today, I want to tell you the story of how Solomon came to be David's son, which is described in chapter 11.

     

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    King David

     This morning I would like to talk about King David.  He is our story of the week.  In fact, there are numerous good stories about David.  For instance, he is the David who as a youth kills Goliath with his sling shot after Goliath has scared half to death the Israelite army. 

    As with all human events, there was a down side to this achievement.  Saul, the king becomes jealous of David’s popularity and will spend much of his later years trying to kill David.

     

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     A second marvelous story takes place in chapter 6, right before our chapter.  David is bringing into Jerusalem the arc of the covenant, which was housed in a tent or portable house.  As the procession enters Jerusalem, David strips down to his shorts and dances for joy as he leads the procession.

    His wife Mical is watching from her second floor window and she is disgusted.  She tells David this when he comes into their home and he responds that he will always dance before the Lord.  Guess what.  God is not pleased with Mical’s disgust and because of that she never has any children.  The lesson: don’t mock me when I dance.

     The most amazing story is this.  You won't find this excellent reading in any of the 3 cycles of the Lectionary.

     

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     One day David is strolling around the roof of his house.  He looks over to his neighbors’ house and sees a beautiful woman bathing.  He enquires into who she is and invites her over for a neighborly dinner.  Guess what happens.  Yes, he falls madly in love with her and they get together. 

    The trouble is, the woman, the famous Bathsheba, is married to Uriah, a soldier in David’s army.  The army is away on maneuvers. 

     So David has Uriah brought back to Jerusalem.  He invites him to dinner, gets him totally drunk, and sends him home to spend the night with Bathsheba.  Unfortunately, Uriah, a man of honor, will not sleep under his roof while his soldier comrades are out sleeping on the ground.  Uriah sleeps on his door step.  A complication for David. 

     

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     So David sends Uriah back to the army, but sends with him a note which tells the commander that he is to place Uriah at the front of the troops in the next battle.   At the peak of the battle, pull the soldiers back and leave Uriah alone. 

     So, Uriah gets killed.  David marries Bathsheba.  End of story, happy ending?  No.

     

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    The prophet Nathan is still around.  God sends Nathan to tell David a parable about a rich guy who steals the favorite lamb of a poor man.  Nathan asks what should be done to that rich man?  David is angry and says he deserves a severe punishment.  Nathan says, “You are that rich man.”   David repents and does penance.

     Meanwhile, Bathsheba has a baby, a little boy, their little love child.  The name of this little boy?  Solomon.  

     

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     Why I find this story fascinating and consoling?  God has accepted the child of David and Bathsheba, even though conceived in less than positive circumstances.  Moreover, David continues to be favored and blessed with enormous success by God despite being less than saintly. 

     We, too, are often less than saintly.  How do you know that you are still favored and blessed by God?

     

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     Revelation 22, 12-14, 16-17,  I, John, heard a voice speaking to me.

     John 17, 20-26,   I pray that they all may be one. 

     

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    I want to share a Mother’s day story with you this morning.  It is not about a woman, but about a caring that was maternal and which we all share, even us guys.

    As you probably know, last weekend Rosemary & I went to NYC for her big family reunion and to ride in the Sunday 5 Boro Bike Tour of the city.   To say nothing about celebrating again our 8th on Sunday, Cinco de Mayo.

     

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    So, it is 6:30 Sunday morning, a beautiful but chilly 48 degree day.  We have just arrived on Staten Island where we plan to park our vehicles, a sedan and two big diesel pickups loaded with bikes.  We are driving up and down the hilly streets.  Cars are already parked everywhere.

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    At some point a guy passes us, turns left at a corner, stops his old station wagon, gets out, and yells to us, “You wanna place to pahk yo cah?”   Newyorkese.  Rosemary can translate.

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    “Sure,” Brian says from the driver’s seat of the truck Rosemary & I are in.  Brian is Rosemary’s nephew and it is at his nice house in Essex Fells, NJ where we have the reunion.  He also rents the bikes for us.

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    So we follow the guy,  probably a middle aged Italian construction worker.  But we are uneasy.  Even Brian, who has a construction company, says he has doubts about the guy. 

    Suddenly we spot an empty space on a tree covered hill with little cottages.  We dive in.

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    Joe, however, who is following us, continues following the guy and eventually parks where the man indicates.  It turns out the place is in front of the guy’s house and the truck is so long it covers they guy’s driveway.  He tells Joe that it is no problem.  He is not going out.

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    Niki arrives with her mom, Frances, and her grandmom, Mary.

    The car parks somewhere else, and we all mount up and ride two, three, or four miles down the hill to the Staten Island Ferry.  This ferry is a national treasure.  It is run free by NYC, it heads straight into the southern tip of Manhattan, you pass the Statue of Liberty, and you can see the skyline as it comes closer, including the new World Trade Center.

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    Emma arrives.

    As I’m riding the ferry in a state of marvel, I am thinking to myself, “We could return after this ride to find that pickup without wheels, the seats all gone, and even the engine extracted.  Just the shell”.  But, what to do?  Go ride.

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    Mary Ann arrives.

    By noon we have all finished up with the marvelous ride and are again on Staten Island.  We head up the hill to retrieve the vehicles.  What do you think we found? 

    The truck was sitting right where it had been left, whole and entire, completely safe.  The guy has been for real, no fraud, no car thief, just a guy in the spirit of the bike ride.  He cared and he wanted to help out.

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    I was most touched and I felt guilty for judging again the book by the cover. 

    Only later did Rosemary tell me that another caring act had taken place.  Joe, who was driving that truck, left $20 bucks under the windshield wiper of the guy’s old station wagon.

    The station wagon man showed he cared.  Joe showed he cared.  How do you show you care this Mother’s Day?

     

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