16th Sunday in Ordinary Time, July 20, 2025

Genesis 18:  One of them said, "I will surely return to you about this time next year, and Sarah will then have a son."

Colossians 1:  It is he whom we proclaim, admonishing everyone and teaching everyone with all wisdom, that we may present everyone perfect in Christ.

Luke 10:  "Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things.  There is need of only one thing.  Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her."

 

John Cade's Homily:    Download 07-20-25 Homily -16th Sunday in Ordinary Time                     

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Paul reading from Genesis
 

Thanks…     

Music,   Ben 

Readers,  Paul & Carrie

Homily,   John Cade

Eucharistic Prayer A & B,  John Stack & John Cade

The Magic Zoom makers,  Hue & Kevin

Final Blessing,  Rosemary

 

 

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Carrie reading from St. Paul's Letter to the Colossians

 

 

Remember these special people:

For all the people affected by the floods;  For our new Pope, Leo XIV;  For John Stack;    For Adam, that the doctors may find a remedy for his seizures; For Meredith ;   For Tom  Quinn;   For Warren Wittek; For Becky and Tom Good; For Lambrini, John Cade's wife, who is dealing with cancer ;  For Allen Stryker;   For Mike and Judy Carrell ; For Hue; For Jackie;   For Mary Hall's family and friend Cadence still suffering from a serious medical condition;   For Sir Charlie;  For Ron ;  For Teresa Quinn's niece, Maddie who has a brain tumor;  

                                       

 

Jackie's sister, & friend, Lynn;  For Rick Turner searching for a kidney donor, Type O neg.;   For Jean & Cliff Wright;    from Barbara, a little baby boy named Ford recuperating from an operation,  the families of Annie and Michael and her neighbor, Marie and the family;    for the medical staffs, teachers, and coaches in our public & private schools.

 

 

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John sharing his homily

 

 

Birthdays:    

Anniversaries:  David & Donna Dinsmore  7/26 

 

 

Expenses: 720.00

Outreach: $   320.00

Thanks again, Folks, for doing what you can.

 

 

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David and Donna get a cookie for their anniversary

 

 

Rosemary's Blessing:

May you look back with confidence and pride

May you look forward with eagerness in your eyes

May you enjoy the challenges of today’s ride

And await all your tomorrows with openness to surprise.

 

Andrew Greeley   A book of Irish American Blessings and Prayers                   

 
 
 
John Stack Ministries meets on Sunday for Mass at 9:30 at The ArtCentre of Plano,
902 E. 16th St, Plano, Texas.
 

 

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    Readings:

    Amos 1, 1 4-7 , Woe to the complacent in Zion. 

    Psalm 146,  Praise the Lord, My Soul.

     1 Timothy 6, 11-16,  You, man of God, pursue righteousness, faith, & devotion

    Luke 16, 19-31,   The Rich Man and Lazarus.   (A good one.)

     

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    Says Victoria and her buddy, our gorilla mascot, "Welcome in, Everybody."

     

     

    Amos observations :

    What :  One of the 12 minor prophets, only 9 chapters.

    Who:  the book presents the thoughts and observations of Amos, who was a sheep herder and a fig farmer.  He was born in the southern kingdom of Judah in a little town south of Jerusalem, but he is condemning the people, especially the rich, of the northern kingdom, Israel.

    Time:  Amos was active around 755 before Christ, but his words and message were revised and edited down through the years, especially during the Babylonian Captivity, around 555 before Christ.  He lives just before the Syrians destroy the northern kingdom of Israel, around 700 before Christ.

     

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    And Genevieve says, ""Hey, I got a belly button.  You, too?"

     

     

    Message:  prayer and sacrifice don’t make up for social injustice and oppression of the poor by the rich. 

    Today:  God will punish you rich and prosperous for your abuse of the poor.  Amos may have seen the threat coming from the Syrians. 

    Sources:  Good News Bible, New Interpreter’s Study Bible, Wikipedia

     

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    Says Buddy, "Where did all this rain come from?"

     

     

    7 Devils

    I admit that the gospel today is so rich I would like to talk about it.  However, I really want to talk about our recent 10 day back packing trip in the 7 Devils region of central Idaho.  7 Devils refers to 7 mountain peaks in a straight row, very rough, vertical, probably needing technical equipment to climb.

    There were 7 of us.  Beth and her swim buddy, Lynn, both excellent hikers and campers.   Mike, Bill, Ray, myself, and Andrew Sokolowski, a friend of Mike.  All these people are excellent, experienced campers and hikers. 

     

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    Hi, Zoe, I missed you last week.   

     

     

    Three observations about the trip and the group. 

    First, there was a marvelous spirit of congeniality, fun, and joy among everybody.  This was evident always, but especially around 4:30, when we would have Happy Hour.  We begin this hour with an old tradition I learned the many years I went back packing with the Jesuits.   Everybody gets 2 oz. of Jack Daniels and a slice of cheese, Gouda, Muenster, or some other.

    You can picture this.  We have been hiking during the day most often.  We have taken showers in the lakes or rivers.  Mike & Beth even swam in Shelf Lake where he measured the water temp at 52 degrees.  We are hungry and it is getting near twilight.  Mike and Ray have built a campfire.  Ray is cooking the freeze dried main course in a pot over the little stove.  Everyone is sitting around the fire on logs or bear canisters.    The camaraderie and joking around is the best.

     It is enchanting.  It is why I go every year.

     

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    Offertory with Claire & Ray & Bernadette & Bill (two of whom, campers.  Guess whom.).

     

     

    Secondly, there is a spirit of generosity and mutual responsibility.  We have to purify our water.  So we take pots of water from the lakes or river, pour them into a 1 gallon plastic bag that has a tube with a filter.  The water runs through the filter into another 1 gallon plastic bag.  We get our drinking water from the second bag. 

    This takes constant care and refilling.  Mike and Andy always kept the first bag filled. 

    Every evening during Happy Hour Ray was cooking the freeze dried main course, chili, Chicken tetrazzini, and others.    Mike brought chocolate bars for deserts.

     

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    The Campfire, Beth, Mike, Ray, Bill, Stack, & Lynn.  Andy on camera.

     

     

    In the morning I always knew when it was time to get up, even if it was dark.  Ray would be banging pots, while he filled one and heated it for coffee and oat meal, whatever each one brought for their breakfast.

    Bill would be checking the maps to see exactly where we were headed that day.  He was always our guide on the paths. 

     

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    The Campfire again, Mike, Stack, Beth, Ray, & Bill.

     

    And then there is the third.  Just when I think I am a pretty hot camper, I make a couple of small mistakes.  Humiliation.

    We had pulled into this drop dead gorgeous campsite on the western edge of Shelf Lake. It had a beautiful fire ring, two, in fact.

    The time was about 3:00 and the trail had been totally dry.  The campsite was even a bit dusty.   It was warm and sunny.

     

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    The Campfire again, Stack, Beth, Ray, Andy, Bill, & Lynn.

     

    I set my tent up in a delightful little grove of trees.  I wanted the shade so I could take an afternoon nap after my shower.   We intended to spend 3 nights and 2 days doing day hikes out from the campsite.

    The first day we cut short our day hike to get back to camp because it was looking like rain.  We had our usual Happy Hour and dinner.  I went to bed.  I had asked Andy to seam seal my tent earlier, so I was content.

    About midnight a wind like a tornado blew in.  Dust everywhere, even filtering into my tent.  Then all out rain.  It stopped and then about 3:30 it blew again and it poured.  No problem, I went to sleep. 

     

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    Swim anybody?  Delightful, beautiful Shelf Lake, ca. 7 thousand feet, and a fresh 52 degrees.  Swim and you will look like Mike and Beth.

     

    In the morning, yes, in the morning, I wake up.  I am on an island on my Therma rest air mattress.  Water had seeped up through my floor. 

    Two silly mistakes.  First, I set my tent in a slight depression.  Secondly, since it had been so dry when I set up, I forgot to put hand sized stones around the tent under the edge of the ground cover. 

    What had happened was that the water from a little trail in the woods near me emptied out near one corner of my tent.  The water jumped over my ground cover and settled under my tent floor, ultimately seeping inside.

     

     

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    Fortunately, the day was good and we were staying another night.   I dried my tent and moved to another spot.

    30 years of camping, and I still can make beginner mistakes. Rather humiliating. 

    Without emulating the mistakes, where do you find similar camaraderie, joy, and mutual support?

     

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    Cooling off in the snow before returning to the Dallas heat.

  • Sunday Homily, October 2, 27th Ordinary Time C

    Readings:

    Habakkuk, 1, 2-3, 2, 2-4 , I cry for help, but you do not listen. 

    Psalm 95,  If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts.

    21 Timothy 1, 6-8, 13-14, I remind you to stir into flame the gift of God.

    Luke 16, 19-31,   Faith the size of a mustard seed. 

     

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    Observations on Habakkuk

    Who:  one of the Minor Prophets.  His book, 3 chapters.

    When:  555 before Christ.  Clear from the text, because he mention the evil Babylon.

     

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    Peighton, too, says, "Hi, Folks, Come in."   Notice Peighton already has his running shoes on.  

     

    Message:

        I am watching the wicked triumph, ruin & violence evereywhere.

        Curses on the oppressor, Babylon.

        God will win in the end

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    1/2 I see ruin and violence everywhere.

    1/2 God says the just will live.

     

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    And Genevieve, who has never met a stranger, says, "Wow, it is so nice to see everybody at my party."

     

     

    Unprofitable Servants?  Faith the size of a Mustard Seed?  

    Wow!  What do you think when you hear this reading?  How do you feel?   Got faith enough to remove a mulberry tree?  I need the faith to remove an overgrown Live Oak tree out of our back yard.  I, for one, don’t get good vibes off of this reading.  And many of the other readings we have had this year from Luke.

    Therefore, I would like to dispute with Luke.  From my psychology experience, am I seeing a man with a slightly split personality? 

     

     

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    Hi, Nora, You look very pretty this morning.

     

    While Luke has the touching Nativity narrative and the magnificent story of the Prodigal Son, and, even, the lost coin and lost sheep, look what else.  

    We have had the master and his debtors, leave your parents and take up your cross, the narrow gate that only a few get in.  Likewise, be ready because he comes like a thief when you are not ready and guess what happens—you go straight to hell!

    You know my bias.  I believe in a God who is unconditional, unconditional in his love for us.  Forget about hell. 

     

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    Hi, Harper, you may tell your grandmother that we can repeat the homily for her any time, since she missed part of it.  And we know she hates to do that.

     

    As another alternative to this discouraging passage I would propose a simple, favorite line of mine from the Old Testament and from one of the Minor Prophets, Micah, only 7 little chapters.   

    Says Micah in chapter 6 verse 8, “The Lord has told us what is good.  What he requires is this: to do what is right, to love unconditionally, and to live in humble fellowship with God.” 

    Initially this may sound pretty easy.  However, is it always easy to do what is right?  Like to stand up for peace when everyone wants war?

     

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    Easy to show constant love?  To troublemakers, to other races, to other religions, to the political candides in this fall’s elections?

    To walk in humble fellowship with our God?  Can this fellowship eliminate fear, fear that I am headed for hell? 

    How do you do what is right, love unconditionally, and live in humble fellowship with our unconditionally loving God?

     

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  • Sunday Homily, October 9, 2016, 28th Sunday Ordinary Time C

     

    Readings:

    2 Kings, 5, 14-17,    Naaman went down and plunged into the Jordan 7 times  (amusing what has been left out leading up to this passage).

    Psalm 85,  The Lord has revealed to the Nations his saving power.

    2 Timothy  2, 8-13 ,  If we persevere, we shall also reign with him.

     Luke 17, 1119,   Of ten lepers healed only one returned to give thanks.

     

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    You may wake up now, Georgie, he is finished talking.  

     

    2 Kings observations:

    Time of the events: 900 B.C.

    Time when written: 555 B.C., during the Babylonian captivity.

    Subject of 1 Kings: This book continues the history of the kings taking up with the death of King David and continuing through the story of David & Bathsheba's son Solomon.  He builds the famous Temple of Solomon.  After his death the nation divides into the northern & southern states, Israel in the north, Judah in the south (including Jerusalem; remember by the "J's").

     

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    I cannot believe you, too, My Dearest Genevieve, are asleep. 

     

    Subject of 2 Kings: This book continues the history of the decline of the two states until Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon defeats the people, 555 before Christ. 

    Subject of our chapter 5: one of the generals of the Syrian-Babylonian army goes to visit the prophet of the day, Elisha.  Naaman, the general, has leprosy.  Note the twist of the story at the end.  Thanks is a theme of this selection and it sets the stage for Luke's story about gratitude. Three characters: Naaman, his little slave girl, and Elisha.  Read the story before this to understand the meaning of what is taking place.  I will summarize it at Mass.

     

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    I think, My Dearest Tori, that you are looking to scare me.

     

    Mike Miller and Thanks

    This morning I would like to talk about how giving thanks is a learned behavior and one I learned from my mother when I got ordained.

    First, however, I would like to talk about Mike Miller.  Yesterday morning we had a delightful memorial for Mike at Dickey’s Funeral Home here in Plano.  As you can imagine, I took an hour to get through this memorial.  I spent a lot of time just trying to get a few words out. 

     

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    Denise and Kara, mom & daughter, say, "Welcome in, Everybody."

     

     

    I talked about 3 memories. 

    First, when I really got to know Mike.  Guess where.  The Collin County Adult Clinic, which our community supported financially for some years.  Mike was the head of the pharmacy department at the clinic.  I would visit him now and then because the pharmacy was a quiet oasis in a crazy busy clinic.  It was often triage time and enormous numbers of people would receive treatment in about 3-4 hours every Thursday evening.

    Secondly, remember when Rosemary & I would have our annual anniversary party in May?  Not only would we renew our vows, but we invited people who were celebrating special anniversaries, like 25 or 40 or 65 years, even 1 year.

    One year Mike and Dee renewed their vows.  Dee said to Mike that after all these years, when Mike walked into the room she was just thrilled like the first time.  That so touched me.  It touched even more a friend of mine named Julie.  She was in tears and still talks about it.

     

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    Finally, a third thing.  Do you people realize that Mike and Dee almost always were holding hands during our Masses?   I ask Rosemary to do the same thing, and you know what she says. 

    I give thanks for Mike in my life and in our community life. 

     

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    Mike Miller's memorial, Saturday, Michael, his son, sharing beautiful memories. 

     

    Now, giving thanks.  A learned behavior.

    When I got ordained in June of 1971 at St. Rita’s in Dallas, I received a number of gifts.   I remember wondering how I was going to thank all these people and I remember my mother being adamant. “You send them a note.”  That seemed pretty daunting to me because this was pre-email, maybe even pre-electricity.  I had to send by mail all these thank you notes.  My mom: “You always thank people.” 

    Twelve years ago when we began this community and you people began to generously support the program.  I was stunned.  And I heard my mom, “Always thank people.”  This is why every Sunday afternoon I aim to get you a thank you note for your generosity.  My Momma told me. 

     

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    Giving thanks is a learned behavior. 

    How are you like the one leper who returned to give thanks?

     

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  • Sunday Homily, April 9, 2017, Palm Sunday

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    Says Our Dear Harper, "Welcome in, Everybody."

     

    Readings:

    Matthew 21, 1-11, Jesus enters Jerusalem, (the entrance)

    Isaiah 50, 4-7.   I gave my back to those who beat me.

     Psalm 22,  My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?

    Philippians 2, 6-11,   He emptied himself

     Matthew 26 & 27,    The Passion.

     

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    Palm Sunday procession beginning.

     

    Sorry, we have no homily today.  Long readings. 

     

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    The Wedding of Scott and Giana at The Windsor at Hebron Park.

     

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    Frank Costanza ring bearer.  Of all the weddings I have had the privilege of performing, Frank at 93 is the prettiest ring bearer I have ever seen.

     

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    Mr. & Mrs. Giana and Scott Booth.

     

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    The beginning of a new life.

  • Sunday Homily 10-26-08, 30th, Ordinary Time

    Readings:  Exodus 22, 20-26; Psalm 18; 1 Thessalonians 1, 5-10; Matthew 22, 34-40

    Exodus: One of the great books of the Bible, the second book of the O.T.  The name  means 'departure' and refers to one of the most important event in Israel's history, the departure of the people of Israel from Egypt where they had become slaves after going there to escape drought in their own land.

    Our selection has Yahweh speaking the law to the people as they wander around in the desert.

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    The Great Commandments

    A priest in Chicago who is a psychologist and whom I admire, Andrew Greeley, tells the story of a woman who had three or four kids.  As she was bringing up the family she noticed that so many of the children around her were rebellious, disrespectful, lazy, and without discipline.  She determined that her kids would be respectful, active, and disciplined. 

    She demanded they assume responsibility in the house for various chores, they had strict curfews and limits, and they were disciplined when they failed or were disobedient.  Time outs, privileges taken away, groundings, no TV, no cell phones, and so forth.  All were used to maintain discipline. 

    The kids grew up, were successful, and all moved away.  Seldom did Mom hear from them.  One day when she was talking with her youngest, a girl, who was celebrating her birthday, the mom asked her why she and the others never kept in touch.  Had she not trained them all well for life and taught them discipline and integrity?  "Yes, Mom," the girl replied.  "But I never felt you loved us. I was a project."

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    Matthew in today's gospel explains what the two greatest commandments are, love God & love your neighbor as yourself.  Over the years I have taken a psychological approach to these two, noting that there really are three.  The third command is implicit, love yourself.  My observation is that, first, loving myself is often the hardest, and second, it is the foundation of the other two.  Can't love God or anybody else very well if I hate myself.

    Today, however, I would like to make some observations about two groups of people, the Pharisees and the neighbor.  This will give you an idea why the question of the Pharisees is important and a trap. 

    About the Pharisees, a rather crazy group of people not even absent from our own times.  The word means 'separate.'  The Pharisees saw themselves as separate and so did the people.  They were separate because they obsessively and rigidly observed the law. 

    Their goal was to win Yahweh's favor by being perfect and at the same time act as an example of righteousness to the people. 

    Their road map was the law.  Guess what the law meant for the Jew of this time.  First, there were 613 commandments, then 365 prohibitions (one for every day of the week), and finally, 268 prescriptions.  Total: over 1200 rules for behavior, and the reading from Exodus provides some examples.  The Pharisees studied and meditated on these laws.  The poor people, the people who had to work could never hope to focus on all these laws, which is why the Pharisees were mostly rich and, therefore, separate from the people and in their eyes superior to the people.

    The pharisees' struggle: are all laws equal because they all come from Yahweh, or are some more important than others.  It was this question they studied, meditated upon, and argued over.  Which leads us to today's encounter with Jesus. They are trying to trap Jesus, make him choose one of these 1,200 laws.  He sidesteps the trap and pronounces the two laws which sum up all the laws. 

    The sad side of the pharisees' life style is that they are obsessed, and that is just unhealthy.  Religious obsession can be as harmful to your health as drugging, drinking, or smoking.  They have OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder.  Love is minimal here.  In fact, fear is probably the motivator.  Whatever, the relationship is between God and the law observer is not the standard that Jesus is suggesting.

    Which leads to the neighbor, the person I am challenged to love as I love myself.  Two observations.

    First, there are two groups of my neighbors, immediate and remote.  The immediate neighbor is my family member, my village neighbor, the people I encounter daily or regularly. 

    The remote neighbor is the alien mentioned in the the Exodus reading, the kid being made to be a soldier in Darfur, the mother in Guatemala, our mother & daughter in Cuernavaca, Mexico, the sick who come to CCAC.  I would even suggest that the pharisee is my neighbor. 

    Secondly, while Jesus says that I am challenged to love my neighbor as myself in this setting, in another place he raises the stakes.  He says to love my neighbor as "I have loved you."  Pretty lofty demand.  Infinite demand, infinite acceptance. 

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    I am convinced that loving a god we cannot see or touch, if that is possible, is built on loving others, which is built on loving myself, something the sad, obsessed pharisee cannot do.  Thank God that none of you are pharisees, or you would not be here.  However, we can follow the footsteps of the mother who failed to show how much she loved her kids. 

    As we head into a marvelous time of our year, Thanksgiving, Advent, Christmas, we begin with Halloween this week.  How are you showing your neighbor your love?

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  • Sunday Homily, July 17, 2016, 16th Sunday Ordinary Time

    Readings:   (A couple of good readings today)

    Genesis  18,  1-10,  I will return next year and Sarah will have a son.  She laughs.

    Psalm 15,  He who does justice will live in the presence of the Lord.

    Colossians 1, 24-28,     I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake.

    Luke 10, 38-42,  The story of Martha & Mary.

     

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    Old buddies, John & Leo, say, "Welcome in, Everybody."

     

    Genesis observations:

    What :   This is the first book in the whole bible, a good read.  It begins with the 2 versions of creation, Adam & Eve, the apple, Cain & Abel, the Ark and the flood with Noah (see the picture of the huge ark somebody has built?), Abraham & the almost sacrifice of his son, and others. 

    When put together:  Babylonian Captivity, ca. 555 before Christ.

     

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    Kevin, too, says, "Come on in, Folks."

     

     

    Today’s story: An amusing little story, though you don't know it because the editor snipped off the end.   Abraham is hospitable to three travelers.  This results in the men, messengers from Yahweh,  saying that a year from now Sarah will have a son.  Sarah is 99 years old and never had a child.  She is behind a tent flap, hears the promise, and she laughs.  Amusingly Yahweh hears her laugh, asks her why, and she lies, saying she did not laugh.  

     

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    Offertory with Tom & Teresa & Sandra, and, of course, Leo.

     

     

    Martha & Mary, who is better?

    This morning I would like to talk about who is better, Martha or Mary?  Before I even begin I must acknowledge that Rosemary has a strong opinion on this subject.  You can guess it.  She thinks that Martha is getting a bad deal. 

    It must be also admitted that Rosemary has a bit of the Martha complex.   She tells me often how she feels like Martha because she is so over worked. 

     

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    Want to see one happy kid today?  

     

    So, being a good husband and trying to lessen the load, I will tell you what I do.  This is also my way of finding meaning to this either/or story.  Maybe it is not either/or? 

    It happens on Tuesday evenings when the sun is going down and I am in the shade that I mow our lawn.  I not only mow, but I edge, trim the bushes, use the weed eater, and blow it all.  Just mowing the grass takes me 90 minutes.  I enjoy doing it.  It is like an art form.  I am imitating Rosemary, the artist.  Plus, it is good exercise.

     

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    The Wedding, Lisa Anderlick and Mark Cheek, Saturday evening, Suncreek United Methodist, Allen.

     

    When I am mowing I get into a pretty swift rhythm.   I can push the lawn mower faster than the mower ordinarily goes.  My little 88 year old neighbor lady who lives across the street, Joyce,  says I look like I am running behind the lawn mower. 

    One evening recently when I was zooming back & forth across our front yard, a neighbor couple, Barbra & Bud, and their white sort of poodle dog, all came walking by.   This happens occasionally in front of our house and in front of their house when we are walking Aviana.  The dogs have a relationship that consists of all of about a two minute mutual check out.  I love these people and they are the couple who introduced me to the “J,” the Jewish Community Center.

     

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    "I take you, Lisa, in Marriage.  I promise to be true to you in good times & bad, in sickness and in health.   I will love and cherish you all the days of my life."

     

     

    So I see Bud & Barbra & Patty.  I wave but do not lessen my rhythm.  I keep chasing that lawn mower.  And then….I feel guilty. 

    I have just again chosen Project over People, one of my most favorite activities.  I think to myself, ‘What if I just stopped and chatted for 5 minutes?’  ‘Would it make the slightest difference in when I finish?’

     

    Lisa & Mark 2

    I have known Lisa Anderlick since the time she was a little girl.  Now she has not only grown up beautifully, but she is an MD.  In fact, she and two of her brides maids all became MD's together.  

     

     

    5 minutes later here they come back the other way toward their house.  So, what do you think I did?  Yep, I kept right on chasing that lawn mower.  And they passed me by and went home.  I still cannot believe I did it.  I have yet to apologize to them.  As Rosemary is happy to observe, I get OCD about projects & work.  Obsessive, compulsive, that is. 

    Sound familiar?  You got a similar obsession?  Maybe you don’t.  If so you are blessed. 

     

    Lisa & Mark 1

    The first steps on the road to a New Life.

     

     

    Maybe in our Martha-Mary story Martha gets obsessive, compulsive and needs to be more like Mary?   At least I do.  Mary, who knows?  Maybe she needs to be more sensitive to the job to be done?

    For me, the story is a challenge to be both, focused on the work, and focused on the person.  In fact, I believe the person always takes priority despite my behavior.

    How do you balance the Martha-Mary dynamic in your life? 

     

    Karen & John 1

    Long time and dear friends, Lisa's parents, Karen & John Anderlick.