Sunday Homily, December 7, 2014, 2nd Advent, B Cycle

Sophia

Sophia says, "Hi, Everybody, Welcome in."

 

Readings:

Isaiah 40, 1-5, 9-11,  Comfort, give comfort to my people (excellent, see Handel’s Messiah)

 Psalm 85,    Lord, Let us see your kindness, and grant us your salvation.

2 Peter 3, 8-14,  With the Lord one day is like a thousand years and a thousand years like one day.

Mark 1, 1-8,   The beginning of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

 

Check the Video for a recording of the first part of Isaiah 40, The Messiah.

 

 

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Zoe, the Beautiful Candle Lighter.

 

 The homily this morning was presented by Meg Hinkley, who shared her story about a time when she was 18 and preparing for college.  She works for the Dallas Rape Crisis Center and shares a beautiful story of spiritual recovery. 

 

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Meg Hinkley of Dallas Rape Crisis Center shares her moving history.
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Buddies, Georgie with her friend, Megan.

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  • Sunday Homily, June 22, 2014, Corpus Christi

    Readings:

    Deuteronomy  8, 2-3, 14-16,   He let you be afflicted with hunger, then fed you.

    Psalm 147,   Praise the Lord, Jerusalem.

    1 Corinthians 10, 16-17,  We all partake of the one loaf.

    John  6, 51-58,  Whoever eats this bread will live forever.

     

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    The Girls say, "Welcome, Everybody, Hats in honor of Cathy." Patricia, Carol, and Maureen.

     

    Deuteronomy: The fifth & last book of the Torah.  The scene: Moses & the Hebrews are in the desert just outside the promised land, the land of the Canaanites, whom they are going to kick out and kill.  Moses is reviewing their journey from Egypt.

    Date:  first put into some form around 750 before Christ, then put into a more final form, guess when, at the end of the Babylonian Captivity, around 555.

     

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    Author: not Moses, even though the book is 3 sermons of Moses on the plains of Moab, just at the end of the period of wandering, and just before entering the land of the Caananites, or the Promised Land.  It is really tradition, stories of old times. 

    Our Selection:  Moses is recounting the escape from Egypt and the years in the desert.  

    The belief that Yahweh punishes, corrects us, and tests us with affliction is not common today as Moses suggests to the people.  You can still hear it from fundamentalist preachers.  Remember the huricane in New Orleans?  We will read more of the section to get the sense more clearly.

     

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    My Guide through the Desert

    We have just read about how Moses guided the Jewish people through the desert.  In honor of two of our most favorite people who are retiring from years in public education, this morning I would like to talk about people who guided us and me through the desert.

    Two short stories, some of which you may have heard before.  It just seems to fit in here so well.

    When I was in maybe 6th grade, I joined the Boy Scouts at Christ the King around January, when I have my birthday.  Some of my classmate joined up in the spring.

     

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    Cathy and especially Harper accepting a special pastry for Cathy's retirement from public education.

     

    First thing I know, along comes summer and we are heading to Texoma for a week of summer camp.  We get there, get our tents, and I overhear some of the 8th grade guys planning to initiate me.  Why me?  Probably because I was bigger than some of my classmates. 

    So suddenly I get sick.  I’m afraid.  I'm home sick.  I want out of there.  These guys were bigger than me and I did not feel safe, no way.  The scout master was a pretty passive guy I did not know well. 

     

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    Rick and Jackie accepting a special pastry for Rick's retirement from public education, Rick's 62nd birthday, Rick and Jackie's 39th anniversary, and for Jackie's marvelous recovery.

     

    We had come in on Sunday.  By Monday night I am back home, and back home really feeling horrible about what I did.  I feel like a chicken, for sure.  I was embarrassed even in front of my parents.

    The next summer comes along.  My dad, who had remained active along with me in the Scout troop, invited me to go with him back to Texoma.  He was going to spend the night as one of the adult overnight supports for the troop.  

    With some trepidation, I decided to go.  We arrived at night and I still remember walking into the tent of my coach and teacher, Frank Hart.  He was sitting on his cot and there was a Coleman lantern buzzing.  He had always supported me.  Always encouraged me. 

     

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    His welcome that night was a turning point in my young life.  It probably prepared me for the day after high school, when I would walk away from the security of my family, join the Jesuits, and never return, even to Dallas for 7 years.

    My second guide through the desert was one of the Jesuits at the old Jesuit High.  From as early as I can remember I detested clericalism and the piety stuff.  That was all I had seen until Jesuit.  Fr. Jules May was not clerical and not pious. 

    He was our freshman football coach.  As coach he was out there in clothes as crummy as what we wore.  And as coach he got after us like a drill sergeant.  He cussed us.  He yelled at us.  He accepted us ultimately.  I remember my dad was somewhat shocked. I loved him. 

     

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    I remember one day we were playing Highland Park on our upper field right next to Oak Lawn across from Holy Trinity.  My best buddy played center for Highland Park and I played center for Jesuit.   At one point in the game we were punting out of our own end zone, a chain link fence between our field and Oak Lawn.  I centered that ball over the kicker’s head, over the fence, and onto Oak Lawn. 

    I was so humiliated and was waiting for Jules May to descend upon me with both feet.  He did not. 

     

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    Marsha, one of those from the "crazy corner."

     

    Jules May was one of the reasons I decided to join the Jesuits.

    These two coaches and teachers were guides to me through the desert. Cathy & Rick have guided tons of young people through the desert. 

    Who was your guide?

    Whom are you guiding today?

     

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    Zoe, as always, the style setter.

     

  • Sunday Homily, May 11, 2014, 4th Easter, Cycle A

    Readings:

    Acts 2, 14, 36-41,  About 3 thousand people were added that day.

    Psalm 23,  The Lord is my shepherd (a good one)

    1 Peter  2, 20-25,  When he was insulted, he returned no insult.

    John  10, 1-10,  The shepherd calls his own sheep by name.

     

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    Georgie says, "Welcome Everybody, come in."

     

    A reminder on Acts:

    What : The second half of Luke’s work, the first part being his gospel.  Acts starts after the Resurrection.  We will read Acts all through May and read the last selection June 1, then June 7, Pentecost.  The work focuses on the spread of the early church with special attention given to Peter and Paul and their conflicts over who was to be a Christian, and Jewish laws, like circumcision.  The conversion of Paul is described.

     

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    Who: Luke, an educated and civilized Jew who wrote in Greek.

    Date:  around the year 65, or about 30 years after Jesus’ death.

    Our Selection:  Peter is just trying to convince his listeners to sign up.

     

    Psalm 23:  The Lord is my shepherd.  One of the good ones.

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    Me, a Shepherd ?  No Way !

    In honor of Mothers' Day today I would like to talk about the Good Shepherd.  Instead of focusing on the way the scripture paints a portrait of the in group and the out group, I would like to focus on the fact that there is only the in group.  We are all in it.  Plus, we are called to be shepherds.  The story of the day comes again from our visit in France a month ago.

    In Paris Rosemary & I have a favorite little pedestrian only street called Rue Cler.  It is in the same neighborhood as the Eiffel Tower and on the left bank of the Seine River.  There is a small cross street called Champs de Mars.  The street eventually goes to the park by the same name where the Eiffel Tower is situated.  Our little hotel, Champs de Mars, is on the street.

     

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    Remember the Holy Saturday wedding in Grandbury, published in the Easter Sunday blog? Here they are, Robb and Rebecca celebrating their 3rd week anniversary. See below the gift they gave the community.

     

    Two of the corners formed by Rue Cler and Rue Champs de Mars have cafes where the tables and chairs spill delightedly out onto the two streets.   One of the corners has a little grocery and the fourth corner has a deli, bakery combination.  The deli is open on the two street sides.

    Rosemary & I went there one afternoon to buy something for our two o’clock lunch-dinner. 

     

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    There are two counters facing Rue Cler, both containing all sorts of bakery goods and deli specialties. 

    We go up to the first counter, look around a bit, and then ask the woman for some quiche and maybe a ham & cheese sandwich.   The young woman who is about 35 and attractive with olive skin and brown hair acts somewhat impatient and brusque. 

    She gives us what we want and we go to the second counter where the cash register is to pay another woman who could be the first woman’s twin sister.

     

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    This young woman is even more impatient and even rude.  We depart and Rosemary says, “I wish I had told her, ‘Don’t talk to me like that!’”  Don’t get New York Rosemary mad.

    So I lied that second Sunday of Easter when I told you we had never met rudeness in France.  This was the first time.

    We were talking about it later that evening when I decided I would return and let them know how we felt.  I memorized a little two sentence statement in French, so I would not get tongue tied, and we returned at 7:00.

    I walk up to the second woman still at the cash register and when she sees me she immediately says, “We are closed.”  Twice.  And immediately sells a baguette to a guy who had walked up just behind me.  I decide I will wait, when suddenly I saw the other woman. 

     

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    I walk over to her, say I would like to have a word, and make my little speech.  I say, “We just bought your food here this afternoon.  It was excellent.  However, I am sad, because for the first time in all my years coming to Parish, this is the first time I met two people who were impolite.” 

    She is all apologetic and asks, “Who?”  “You,” I say.  And still she was apologetic.  I told her I accepted her apology, thanked her, and left feeling pretty happy.

    I know not what bad experiences with Americans or men or poor French speakers they had had in their lives.   I do know the girls had moms and maybe they are moms.  

     

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    Cupcake of the Week for a Great Grandmother, Mabel.

    Even though the girls were impatient with Rosemary and me, I propose that these two women are part of the shepherd’s group and that, in fact, all of us, everyone is part of the shepherd’s group.  Some people in the group are more wounded and brainwashed.   Their hurt leaks out in their behavior.  Are the Boko Haram people, the Nigerians who kidnapped the girls, are they part of the group?  Yes.   I have lived in Nigeria and I know how brutal it can be.

    Despite the in and out quality of the good shepherd scriptures, I propose that all of us here are part of the group.  We are blessed because we have had good secondary shepherds in our lives, good moms, teachers, coaches, friends, and fellow community members.

    We are, also, definitely called to shepherd others. 

    Who and How?

     

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  • Corpus Christi, June 14, 2020

    Rosemary's Blessing

    Gaze at the beauty of earth’s greenings.

    Now, think.

    What delight God gives to humankind

    with all these things. . . .

    All nature is at the disposal of humankind.

    We are to work with it.

    For without it we cannot survive.

     

    Hildegard of Bingen  (1098-1179)

     

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    Thanks to the Team

    Music, Shonda & Ben

    Readers, Cathy & Kevin  & Buddy, the candle blesser

    Eucharistic Prayer & Gospel, John Cade

    The Magic Zoom makers, Mike & Ben & Becky & Richard & Tom

    Final Blessing, Rosemary

     

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    Who's that peeking around the corner?  Becky

     

    Please Remember these special people:

    For Jim Esparza, the son of Frank & Mary, who just passed last Saturday with sepsis;   For all the medical personnel struggling to treat the tsunami of sick people, in particular, locally, Cindy's staff at Presby, Dallas and at Frisco Presby, the mother of Harper and Betsy, Kendle, working in labor & delivery;   For Bill;   For Joe Hogan with cancer;  For Loretta's aunt Alicia;    For Sydney;  & For Sir Charlie;  Shonda's mom;   for Michelle;  For a friend, a neighbor, & a doctor, Karen, with brain cancer; For Rick Turner searching for a kidney donor, Type O neg; For Meredith, cancer free.;    For Hue;  For John O'Donnell;    For Dee, and for her daughter, Lisa; For John Schanot's continued health;  For Anthony & Sabrina;    For a young man who is suffering from depression;  John Cade's mother in law, Kalliopi Piskiouli and Lambrini;  Virginia Mattingly

     

     

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    Mike, our technology magician.

     

    From last Week:

    Birthdays:  Shonda (last Week), Deacon Mike ordained '78, Bill Ekes, Alison DeGenova; this week, Bernadette,  

    Anniversary:  The McClurgs, Diane & Kent, 48 years, & Diane's knee replacement this past week; Sandra  & Chuck, 59th 

     

     

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    Corpus Christi

    We celebrate today the Church feast of Corpus Christi.  Rosemary also reminded me that Friday the 12th I was celebrating the anniversary of my ordination at St. Ritas.  You will never guess how many years it has been since that day.  Next year it will be 50 years, 1971.  Can you believe that, Folks?   It blows me away. 

    For maybe 20-30 of the last years I have tried to point out that to understand the Eucharist and Corpus Christi, I have to know what a special feast is like because I have enjoyed them in my life.  For me the obvious is the Thanksgiving celebration.  Rosemary & I have treasured these Thanksgiving events because we always went to celebrate with Joe & her sister Clare at their house on Hilton Head.

     

     

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    Legacy continues to be a perfect venue.

     

    This morning I have 4 unique celebrations that took place in conjunction with the famous tree planting hobby I got myself into.

    First.  It was around 1990 when I went big.  We planted Marsh Lane from near Love field to LBJ on two consecutive Sundays in November.   

    When we finished, my beloved  old grade school coach and Scout Master, Frank Hart, invited everyone to come to his restaurant just north of LBJ on Marsh Lane.  Everything was on Frank.  Wow, was I touched.

     

     

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    Second.  The next fall we must have planted Hillcrest or Preston.  Too far away from Frank’s restaurant.  Guess who came out and catered the whole gang.  Frank’s son , Frank Jr., who had the Greenville Avenue restaurant, Back Country bar-b-que.  Incredible as it may seem, I had Frank in one of my classes when I taught at Jesuit as an intern ’65-’68.  Frank jr. catered the team for a number of years.

    Three.  The next year or so my classmate, Ed Lamberty, brewed up in the Jesuit resident community kitchen a whole bunch of chili.  Venison chili.   Yes, Venison chili.  Word got out and the kids did not want to eat it.  Eat bambi?  Poor Ed.  He was both a hunter and an excellent cook.   I think he quit hunting.

     

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    Remembering….

     

    Four.  Remember the big tree planting we did at Plano Senior High one October?  Always October.  400 trees starting at 12:00 noon with a covered dish party at 3:00 in a room on the east side of the school, or maybe in the junior high. We were still celebrating Sundays at Vines High School.

    By 1:30 or 2:00 all 400 trees had been planted.  And everyone went to eat.    I can still remember dearest Maureen Macchio coming in at 3:00 with her special meat balls.

    How do you celebrate the Eucharist?

     

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    Says Aviana, "Hey, Everybody, we have a new home.  As soon as the truly pleasant couple moves out, we move in.  Isn't that right, Grace?

     

     

  • Sunday Homily, December 30, 2012, Holy Family C

     Readings:

    1 Samuel 1, 20-28, Hannah conceived and bore a son whom she called Samuel.

    Psalm 84, Blessed are they who dwell in your house, O Lord.

    1 John 3, 1-2, 21-24, We are God’s children.

    Luke 2, 41-52, After 3 days they found him in the temple. 

     

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    Candles lit, Mass begins

    Samuel observations: who, when, what, our passage with a story

    Who:

              –about whom: Samuel, the last judge ruler of the Israelites and the first of the Big Three, that is, Samuel, Saul, and The Great King David, a fascinating Old Testament character. 

              –by whom: not written by Samuel, but a compilation of numerous sources.

    When:  The Samuel figure lived around  1000 years before Christ.  As far as being put together into a unit, being familiar as you are with the Big Three Prophets, Isaiah, Jeremiah, and Ezekiel, when they did their prophet job,  and the influence of the Babylonian Captivity, around 600-550, yes, you are right if you guess that the work apparently was assembled at this same time.  The Jewish leaders were attempting to preserve their community as a tribe-nation.  

    What:  a Jewish history lesson, fantasized greatly, and attempting to give a divinely chosen character to the Israelites’ heredity.  Originally there were two books, Samuel and Kings.  Now there are 4.  How come?  A simple answer.

    Originally, it seems, Samuel was one scroll written in Hebrew.  It was translated into Greek.  Hebrew has no vowels and therefore takes up less space.  Greek has vowels.  Therefore, two scrolls were needed to write out the book of Samuel and thus it became Samuel I and II.   Sort of amusingly simple.

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    The Story: (chapter 1)

              The 4 characters: Samuel’s mom, Hannah; her husband Elkanah; Elkanah’s second wife, Peninnah; & the temple priest, Eli.

              There was this man, Elkanah, who lived with his two wives in Ramah.  He loved them both.  Over the years Peninnah had numerous children, but Hannah had none.  Despite this, Elkanah had a special love for Hannah.

    Peninnah used to laugh at and mock Hannah, who became depressed, often would not eat, and cried a lot.

    One day Hannah was in the temple crying over her inability to have children.  At one point she promised that if she had a son, she would dedicate him to God’s service.  She continued to pray, mouthing her prayer silently.

    Eli, the priest, was sitting in the back of the temple watching Hannah.  He thinks she is drunk and scolds her, “Stop making a drunken spectacle of yourself.  Stop your drinking and sober up.”

    Hannah, of course, is mortified and defends herself, saying she has no children and is miserable.  Eli believes her and tells her to go in peace and may God give you what you ask.

    Guess what happens….

    Sources: Good News Bible, New Interpreter's Study Bible, Bible Gateway.com, Wikipedia

     

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    Our Harper

    The Family

    This morning I would like to say a few words about the family, especially in connection with what happened in Newtown, CT. 

    When the news first hit me, like millions of others, I think I was in denial, then angry, then in tears.  As time went on I would occasionally hear or see some snippet of news asking the question why this boy went off like he did.   Everyone seemed perplexed by this.

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    John & Karen

    When I thought more, taking into my experience as a priest and with psychology, I kept thinking, this is not difficult.  I see three factors: nurture, nature, and environment.  And maybe all three together.  This is how it touches us.  Let me explain each one.

    Nurture.  I immediately asked myself, what did he not get that he needed to grow up balanced.  What basic needs were not met?  What did I need, what did you need growing up?  I would propose 4 things, affection, acceptance, encouragement, and training.  I would include time here, too, though it is assumed with the first three. 

    What happens when I do not have these needs attended to, the result?  I am hurt.  How does hurt often manifest?  Anger.

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    Nature.   This is a tough one.  Psychological disorder.  I have seen young kids who probably were getting nurture, but were out of control, impulsive, even violent.  The result: anger. 

    Modern medication can certainly help a young person with such a disorder.  Sometimes it just does not work.

    Environment.  This obviously involves the home atmosphere.  But it includes extended family, school, and neighborhood.  A lot of abuse can take place at school.  Bullying.   Result: hurt.  Manifestation: anger.

     

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    Also under environment I would include what is offered on TV, electronic games, and news from other tragedies.  Who right now are the young people out there who want to emulate Newtown or Columbine?  The example is contagious for a kid. 

    What has this got to do with you and me?  It has this to do with you and me: we are family.  We can nurture, whether we are parents, grandparents, teachers, mentors, coaches, scout leaders. 

    One of the people who nurtured me in 7th & 8th grade was Frank Hart, my old coach, scout leader, and teacher.  We are still close friends.

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    Shonda and Ben

    We as a Catholic spiritual community have the honor and privilege of nurturing all the marvelous kids who join with us on Sunday mornings.  May they take away a positive image of themselves from their time here.  May they take with them an image of an affectionate and accepting God. 

    Affection, acceptance, encouragement, training.  For whom are you doing this today?

     

     

     

     

  • Sunday Homily, November 27, 2016, 1st Advent, A

    Readings:

    Isaiah, 2, 1-5,  They shall beat their swords into plow shares. (a beautiful readRing)

     Psalm 122,  Let us go rejoicing to the house of the Lord.

     Romans 13, 11-14,  Our salvation is nearer now.

     Matthew 24, 37-44,   Stay awake, for you do not know on  which day your Lord will come.

     

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    Thanks, John, for celebrating today.

     

     Second week of Advent, Thoughts by Mike

    Energize your spiritual journey

    We are all brothers and sisters, and our one goal is the kingdom of heaven, here and now.

    We will always obtain the desire of our heart, so we must choose our desires wisely. 

    Choose love, for it is in giving that we receive, ‘it is in pardoning that we are pardoned.’

    ‘Pay it forward.’  We teach by example.

    Life is not about winning or loosing, its about compassion and justice.

    Taking a step forward means that we have chosen to leave something behind. 

    We are granted joy when we choose to leave pain behind. 

    We enter truth when we choose to leave fear behind.

    Peace comes when we choose to forgive.

    Our Spirit enlightens us by chasing away our darkness, for they cannot coexist.  

     

     

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    Happy Anniversary, Frank & Mary.

     

    The Kingdom of God is always at hand.  Be born again.

    We are one body in Christ, when we are not seen or recognized when we feed the hungry, clothe the naked, and visit the sick and imprisoned.

    Love does not build barriers; it tears them down.

    Gratitude is the lens through which the Spirit calls us to journey.

    ‘Most opportunities are never convenient.  You don’t wait for them; they just occur.’

    Deacon Mike

     

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    Hi, John and Mike from Hilton Head Island.

     

  • Sunday Homily, December 29, 2013, Holy Family

    Readings:

    Sirach 3, 2-6, 12-14, My son, take care of your father when he is old.

    Psalm 128,  Blessed are those who fear the Lord and walk in his ways.

    Colossians 3, 12-21,  Wives, be subordinate to your husbands.

    Matthew 2, 13-15, 19-23, Take the child and his mother, flee to Egypt and stay there until I tell you.

     

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    Leo, the Candle Lighter, at work with his dad, Ray.

     

    Sirach observations:

    What.  One of those 12 odd books, neither in the Old nor the New Testament.  A book with wise little sayings & vingettes.

    Examples: Be humble in everything you do, 3, 17.   Stubborness will get you into trouble, 3, 26.  If you are polite and courteous, you will enjoy the friendship of many, 6, 5.  A father who loves his son will whip him often, 30, 1.  A woman has to take any man as a husband, but a man must choose his wife carefully, 36, 21.

    Who.   Sirach is the father of a man names Joshua (or Jesus) who wrote & compiled these saying.

    When.   Composed around 200 years before Christ, maybe.

     

    Colossians observations:

    Get ready, this is a good one.  Especially for wives.  

     

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    Where else but with this hospitable community can The Candle Man kneel on the altar to light the candles.


     

    Paradigmes for Families

    I remember way back when Rosemary and I had been married a while, I told her one day that I thought this special line from the Bible was my new favorite line.  “Wives, be subordinate to your husbands.”  Sounded good to me. 

    You know what I got, the look, the dog kennel look, the look that said, ‘There is a vacancy in the dog kennel in the back yard, bubba.’  So much for my new favorite line. 

    We have one of the classic lines in Scripture here this morning.  “Wives,be subordinate to your husbands.”  I would like to talk about this.

     

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    I also remember one afternoon I was in line to ride the roller coaster or something at 6 Flags.  Ahead of me was a family, husband and wife with maybe two or three kids.  The couple were discussing two sides of some decision.  Then I heard the husband tell the wife that she should follow his opinion, because….   You know what he said.  I almost passed out.  I did not realize that contemporary, educated, middle class folks followed this just because it says it in the Bible.

    Let me offer some perspective, a little history and the 3 models of family dynamics.

    Historically, remember that the writer of the line lived not in the Middle Ages, but way before that.  Women were not considered equal to men in any way.  I saw this in East Africa when I lived there.  The man was the head and the wife, kids, and farm animals were all more or less on the same level.

     

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    You may see the same phenomenon today.  Where?  Try Afghanistan or among many Arab or Muslim countries.  Women have no rights and are certainly not considered equal to men.  Because of this, women can be beaten like a child or abused with hardly any consequence.  The old dictum held, ‘A good beating never hurt anyone.’

    The writer of this letter saw this and spoke to it.  Not only does he speak to the wife, he also speaks to the husband, “Husbands, love your wives.”  Pretty unique stuff for those days.  Wives, in other words, are human beings, not property to be told how to dress and behave.

     

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    Cupcake of the Week to Georgie for being such a big help.

     

    Finally, let me remind you of the 3 models of family dynamics.

    First, you have the patriarchy.  The father is the head, which today’s writer is aware of.  And accepts.

    Secondly, you have the matriarchy, the wife is the head of the family.  This model has been used over the centuries in various places.

    Thirdly, you have equality.  This model has more traction today because women and men are equally educated and often equally talented.  In this family the husband and wife share responsibility and consult with each other.

    It is not so much that one model is better than the other.  Which model works?

     

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    The Cupcake Kids, Zoe & Leo.

     

    There are days when I am convinced that Rosemary and I have a matriarchy.

    What works for you?