• Announcements

    Rosemary's Blessing:  

    May God protect you

    From silly fears  and from bitter tears

    From foolish fights and from sleepless nights

    From excessive needs and from nasty deeds

    From self-made hells and from all bad times.

     Andrew  Greeley,   A Book of Irish American Blessings and Prayers

     

    Nancy 4-15-12

    Nancy reading Acts

     Our Special Thanks:

    • For Reading:   Nancy & Rich       
    • For Serving:  Kevin  
    • For the Communion Bread:  Dee
    • For the Wine Cups:  Jan & Sir Charlie
    • For the Music: Ray & Bethany
    • For the Pictures & Video: Jan & Rick, Beth & John
    • For the pastries & coffee: Joan & Jackie & Carol, Fred & Maureen
    • For the altar & sound:  Jackie & Hue

     

    Richard 4-15-12

    Richard reading 1 John

     

     Birthdays:   Claire Occhipinti, Jerry Gleason (78) Alexandra Froebe (23)

    Anniversaries:

    John & Connie Dougherty (21st

    Mike & Angie Carroll (22nd)

    Fred & Maureen Macchio (49th)

     

    R & ME 4-15-12

    Rob & Mary Ellen


     We Remember 

    Geri Moran's Tory & Roy Serpa & family, whose 18 year old daughter, Brittany committed suicide before Easter;   Christine Drescher's grandmother Margie with a stroke;  Lisa's Ackerman’s  Louis & Jim;  Gina Adcock's mother with a new outbreak of cancer;  Dorothy Perry;     Rita;     Alison's recuperation;  Tom & Teresa Quinn's daughter Colleen with breast cancer;    Barb & Warren's  friend, Mike, fighting cancer, & Tara;   Bernadette Delgado's mom & Gilberto's mom;   Marilyn Ackerman's mom & brother, Dick;   Grace LeBlanc's niece Carlin, 13, with hodgkins;  Tom & Teresa Quinn's niece, Chawna, with cancer, plus Neva Flynn, Angel, & Diane Kreeitzer;  Connie Doherty's mom & her sister, plus Kevin's cousin, Peter, & John's dad  in assisted living; Jean Wright's daughter, Mary; Kerry's sister Maura with her second cancer;   Mary Ellen's Christopher, Margaret, & Jim; our friends, sons, & daughters in the military, including Ryan McClurg & Chebino; George & Marianne's sons & Linda's son, plus Stacie & Ben White & their niece with leukemia; a cure for autism from Laura Chollick; Fred's friend John with cancer;  for our President that he have great success and someday hold his grandchildren in his lap.

     

     

    Coffee Shoppe 4-15-12

    At the Pastry Shoppe, Norm, Cathy, Diane, & John

     

     

      Video:   Entrance Hymn (2 minutes)  

       

                                                                                                                                        

    Your Finances: April 15, 2012

    Expenses:   $810.00

    Outreach:   $350.00

    Thanks for your Generosity 

     Have a Great Week, J.S (214-783-0443)

     

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth.

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world we live in a better place to live.

                                                                                                                                      

     

     

     

     

  • Reminder for Sunday, 2nd Easter


    Welcome:
    Coffee & juice & specials on the house.

    Time: 9:30; Celebrate with the Community & Stack.  Mike homilizing.   Welcome. 

    Place: Vines High School, 15th between Custer & Independence, south side, Plano.

     

    Mabel & Curtis 4-13-12

    Curtis & Mabel hosting our Thursday & Friday outdoor services
    Tom 4-13-12

    Thursday Hand Washing with Tom, Teresa, & Jean

     

     

    Readings:   Acts 4, 32-35, They had everything in common; Psalm 118, Give thanks to the Lord for He is good, his love is everlasting; 1 John 5, 1-6, Everyone who loves the Father loves the one begotten by him; John 20, 19-31, Jesus came and stood in their midst.

     

    Hand Washing 4-13-12

    Hand Washing with Bobby
    Megan 4-13-12

    Cindy, Neil, Megan, & Stephanie

      Community Bulletin Board:

    1. Easter Egg hunt:  Return your empty plastic eggs and get a prize.  Thanks to The Gang who helped.
    2. Big Annual Anniversary Party: April 28, Heritage Farm, 6:00 until…  As usual, covered dish, wagon & mules for the kids, and renewal of wedding vows of 15 plus couples from 5 years to 60 years. 
    3. Check out YELP on line.  Comment on our community.  Thanks, Carol Eshelbrenner.

     

    Roberts 4-13-12

    Sean & Donna with their daughters Kimberly & Courtney

    Alexandra 4-13-12

    Alexandra with her parents, Richard & Monica and Jackie
    Alicia 4-13-12

    Alicia with her granddaughter

        

     

     What's going on in our Catholic World:   

    1.  Benedict and Cuba, National Catholic Reporter, April 5, (400 words),  Download Benedict & Cuba 4-13-12

    2.  Kennedy on substitutes for Easter & Passover, National Catholic Reporter, April 5, (700 words), Download Kennedy on Easter 4-13-12

    3.  The Cardinal’s Lunch, National Catholic Reporter, April 9, (500 words), Download A Cardinal 4-13-12

     

    Handsome 4-13-12

    The Handsome One, Tristan
    Beautiful 4-13-12

    The Beautiful One, Gracie, Hue Beavers' grandkids

    Emma 4-13-12

    Emma on The Hunt
    Leo B 4-13-12

    Leo ready for Easter

      

    True?

    The more I read, the more I meditate, and the more I acquire, the more certain I am that I know nothing.

    VOLTAIRE

     

    Leo 4-13-12

    Leo running from Who Dat?

     

    Prize Table 4-13-12

    The Prize Table under control with Loretta, Sabrina, Alison, Dillon, & John

     

      

     

      Video:  (3 min.)

           

     See you Sunday, May 15, 2nd Easter

      J.S., 214-783-0443

     

                                                                                          

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement   

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth 

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world we live in a better place to live.

     

      

     

     

     

     

  • Sunday Homily 4-8-12, Easter

    Readings:   Acts 10, 34, 37-43, This man God raised; Psalm 118, This day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad; 1 Corinthians 5, 6-8, A little yeast leavens all the dough; John 20, 1-9, Mary of Magdal came to the tomb early.

    Candle Lighting 4-8-12

    Leo lighting the Easter Candle with his mom, Shonda

    Acts: 

    Author: Most likely Luke, who wrote the Gospel with his name and who followed and copied some of Mark's material. 

    Date: ca. 70-100 A.D., therefore ca. 40 years after the death of Jesus. 

    Subject: the ministry of Paul & the 12 Apostles after the death of Jesus.

            Chapters 1-8 deal with the Resurrection, Ascension, & Pentecost (Holy Spirit)

            Chapters 8- 28 deal with Paul's conversion & ministry.

     

    DeGenovas 4-8-12

    The DeGenovas, Alison, Sabrina, & John

     

    Today's selection: Two visions/dreams have just occurred:

            1. Cornelius, a captain in the Roman army and a Gentile, has a vision in which he is instructed to go to a town called Joppa and talk with a man named Peter.

            2.  Peter has a vision in which a sheet held by its 4 corners comes down and is full of all kinds of animals.  A voice says, "Eat."  Peter refuses because of the law of ritual impurity, i.e., some animals are ritually impure and it is prohibited to eat them.  But the voice insists.  At this point three of Cornelius' people arrive and invite him to come to Cornelius' house.  This vision symbolizes that even Gentiles who are ritually impure are invited to the new Christian community.

    Becky & Lily 4-8-12

    Becky & Lily

    Our selection takes up just after Peter arrives at Cornelius' house, finds a group of Cornelius' friends, is invited to speak to them, and he begins.  The following is what he says to the group of Gentiles gathered in Cornelius' house.

    Meaning of the Word Easter: the origin of the use of Easter seems lost in history.  Probably not from Latin, which uses pasqua.  Probably not coming from a German goddess of spring, which some have suggested.  May have emerged from early Celtic converts (British Isles), who wanted to use their own words for Christian feasts, rather than Latin words.

     

    Quads 4-8-12

    The Quads are growing!

    The Resurection Today

    Last Satuday there was a picnic.  This was not your ordinary picnic.  It took place in Flower Mound on the west side of town, the Circle R Ranch.  It went from about 10:30 to 2:30 on one of our recent beautiful days.

    The picnic was for kids handicapped in some way. 

     

    LFK A 4-8-12

    Love for the Kids Picnic

    There was another picnic before Christmas, this one for underprivileged kids.  3,000 younger kids poured in and ran all over the place for about 5 hours. 

    This past picnic the kids were not running around.  Many of them came in wheel chairs or prams.  They were often physically misshapen.  They frequently could not speak.  But they could smile and they did.

    I volunteered to work at the photo area.  This was really well run by two black guys with their camera, lap top, and printer, as well as another guy who arranged the families, and two girls who provided decoration.  The families could choose their decorations or get ups from 4 themes represented in pictures, like Easter, cowboy, fireman, and so forth.   They hardly needed me for crowd control like the December picnic I worked. 

    LFK B 4-8-12

    Love for the Kids Picnic, Photo Shop

    What I did mostly was watch and touch, and be touched.  I was close to tears with so many of these kids and with their families.  I shared this with some of the team and they, too, said they were likewise moved.  I wanted to hug the kids and hug the parents.

    Because I was not greatly needed I moved to the welcome post.  Here I was touched again.  People were trickling in, so I began talking with a lady who was also welcoming kids and families.  It was her first time to volunteer.  Eventually she talked about her son, about 40 years old and slightly handicapped.   He had been shot a month or so ago at the downtown Dart train stop. 

    Emmit 4-8-12

    Emmit Cronin, 2 weeks old

    I did not know what to say.  She was in tears and I too, especially because of her attitude.  She was grateful.  She was thankful for the long life her impaired son had had. 

    I talk about these simple events because for me they are Easter events, Resurrection events.  The characteristics of this type of an event: more life, more peace, and gratitude. 

    The kids were not so unusual.  The talk with the lady, Terry, was pretty routine in the beginning.  Similar things happen all the time.  I went to touch these people.  But I was touched.   I came away with more life, more peace, and so much more gratitude for so much. 

    Cronins 4-8-12

    The Cronins, Amanda, Ben, & Emmit, an Easter Event

    What is the Easter event in your life today?

     

  • Announcements

    Rosemary's Blessing: 

    Oh Lord,

    Who bestows life abundantly,

    In your plentiful graciousness,

    Renew our life of faith on this Easter morning of joy

     and help us to sing the alleluia with the hope

    that we too will rise again.

    A Book of Irish American Blessings & Prayers,     Andrew Greeley

    John 4-8-12

    John reading Acts

     Our Special Thanks:

    • For Reading:   John & Jean         
    • For Serving:  Kevin  
    • For the Communion Bread:  Dee
    • For the Wine Cups:  Jan & Sir Charlie
    • For the Music: Ray & Shonda
    • For the Pictures & Video: Jan & Rick & John
    • For the pastries & coffee: none this week
    • For the altar & sound:  Jackie & Hue
    • For the Easter Egg Hunt: Bernadette, Carol, Sabrina, Diane, Chuck, & so many others

     

    Jean 4-8-12

    Jean reading 1 Corinthians & celebrating 75 years

     

     Birthdays: Joanie (2 Sundays ago),Morgan Froebe (19), Tom Zurchin, Mark Ackerman (48), Kerry Tucker

    Anniversary: Curtis & Mabel (59th)

    Who Dat 4-8-12

    Who Dat??

     

     We Remember 

    Geri Moran's Tory & Roy Serpa & family, whose 18 year old daughter, Brittany just committed suicide;  Brian Pack's 92 year old dad who died a week ago;  Our Angela who broke her hip three weeks ago;  Christine Drescher's grandmother Margie with a stroke;  Lisa's Ackerman’s  Louis & Jim;  Gina Adcock's mother with a new outbreak of cancer;  Dorothy Perry;  Bob Dunbar with shingles;    Rita;     Alison's recuperation;  Tom & Teresa Quinn's daughter Colleen with breast cancer;    Barb & Warren's  friend, Mike, fighting cancer, & Tara;   Bernadette Delgado's mom & Gilberto's mom;   Marilyn Ackerman's mom & brother, Dick;   Grace LeBlanc's niece Carlin, 13, with hodgkins;  Tom & Teresa Quinn's niece, Chawna, with cancer, plus Neva Flynn, Angel, & Diane Kreeitzer;  Connie Doherty's mom & her sister, plus Kevin's cousin, Peter, & John's dad  in assisted living; Jean Wright's daughter, Mary; Kerry's sister Maura with her second cancer;   Mary Ellen's Christopher, Margaret, & Jim; our friends, sons, & daughters in the military, including Ryan McClurg & Chebino; George & Marianne's sons & Linda's son, plus Stacie & Ben White & their niece with leukemia; a cure for autism from Laura Chollick; Fred's friend John with cancer;  for our President that he have great success and someday hold his grandchildren in his lap.

     

     

    Zoe 4-8-12

    Zoe with Who Dat.

     

      Video:   Entrance Hymn (2 minutes)  

      

                                                                                                                                        

    Your Finances: April 8, 2012

    Expenses:   $1750.00

    Outreach:   $1025.00

    Thanks for your Generosity 

     Have a Great Week, J.S (214-783-0443)

     

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth.

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world we live in a better place to live.

                                                                                                                                      

     

     

     

  • Reminder for Sunday 4-8-12, Easter

    Welcome: Coffee & juice & specials on the house—Next Week.

    Time: 9:30; Celebrate with the Community & Stack.   Welcome. 

    Place: Vines High School, 15th between Custer & Independence, south side, Plano.

     

    Bethany-Ray 4-6-12

    Bethany & Ray working Magic

     

    Quinns 4-6-12

    The Quinns, Quinn, Colleen, Makela, Shannon, Kira, Teresa & Tom

     

    Readings:   Acts 10, 34, 37-43, This man God raised; Psalm 118, This day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad; 1 Corinthians 5, 6-8, A little yeast leavens all the dough; John 20, 1-9, Mary of Magdal came to the tomb early.

     

    Procession out 4-6-12

    Processing out to the hallway

     

    Procession in 4-6-12

    Processing into the cafetorium, Joan, Jerry, & Bill Poncik

     

     Community Bulletin Board:

        1.    Easter Egg hunt after Easter Mass.  Please bring a flower to decorate the stage.

     

    Asperges 4-6-12

    The "Asperges," the Sprinkling/Blessing

       

    Emma 4-6-12

    Emma

     

     What's going on in our Catholic World:   

    1.  Benedict vs Clericalism, National Catholic Reporter, March 30, (400 words),    Download Benedict 4-6-12

    2.  Kennedy on substitutes for Easter & Passover, National Catholic Reporter, March 29, (700 words),  Download Kennedy 4-6-12

    Georgie 4-6-12

    Georgie

     

    Photo Shoppe 4-6-12

    Why we're at Love for the Kids

     

    True?

    Doubt grows with knowledge.

    johann wolfgang von goethe

     

    For the Kids 4-6-12

    Our Community with the sponsorship of Bona Responds, some of the 30 plus volunteers last Saturday at Circle R Ranch in Flower Mound

      

     

     

     Video: Palm Sunday Procession (4 min.)

          

     See you Sunday, May 8, Easter

      J.S., 214-783-0443

     

                                                                                          

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement   

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth 

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world we live in a better place to live.

     

      

     

     

     

  • Sunday Homily 4-1-12, Palm Sunday

    Readings:   John 12, 12-16 (Story of Jesus entry into Jerusalem); Isaiah 50, 4-7, I gave my back to those who beat me; Psalm 22, My God, My God, why have you abandoned me?; Philippians 2, 6-11, He emptied himself, taking the form of a slave; Mark 14, 15, 1-39, The Passion.

     

    Procession out 4-1-12

    The community processes out of the cafetorium into the hall where the singing begins and Mike & Ryan lead the procession back into the main celebration area

    Because of the extraordinary amount of reading in this celebration, there is no homily.

    Procession in 4-1-12

    The reenactment of the Entry into Jerusalem with palms

     

    Special Note: Holy Thursday & Good Friday Services, the home of Curtis & Mabel, 7:00 P.M.

    Sprinkling 4-1-12

    As each person enters into the cafetorium they and their palms are blessed and cleansed with water

    Candle Lighting 4-1-12

    Emma with the help of her mother, Beth, lights the 6 candles of Lent

     

  • Announcement

    Rosemary's Blessing: 

    May the God of the dawn awaken you
    May the God of sunrise stir you up
    May the God of morning bless your work
    May the God of noon renew your strength
    May the God of sunset bring you home
    May the God of dusk soothe your soul
    May the God of night bring you rest. 

    Adapted from a blessing by Andrew Greeley

    Lily 4-1-12

    Lily reading Isaiah

     

     Our Special Thanks:

    • For Reading:   Lily, Scott, & Monica (Passion narrator)          
    • For Serving:  Kevin  
    • For the Communion Bread:  Jan & Dee
    • For the Wine Cups:  Mary Ellen
    • For the Music: Ray & Bethany
    • For the Pictures & Video: Jan & Rick & John
    • For the pastries & coffee: Joan & Jackie, Fred & Marueen
    • For the altar & sound:  Jackie & Hue

     

    Scott 4-1-12

    Scott reading Philippians

     

     Birthdays: Joanie (last Sunday), Chris Phipps, (54), Elliot Zurchin, Kendall Gorman, Carmen Pastula (18), Jean O'Donnell (75)

     

     

     

    Monica 4-1-12

    Monica & Mike reading the Passion

    We Remember 

    Brian Pack's 92 year old dad who died Friday;  Our Angela who broke her hip three weeks ago;  Christine Drescher's grandmother Margie with a stroke;  Lisa's Ackerman’s sister, Pam and Louis & Jim;  Gina Adcock's mother with a new outbreak of cancer;  Dorothy Perry;  Bob Dunbar with shingles;    Rita;     Alison's recuperation;  Tom & Teresa Quinn's daughter Colleen with breast cancer;  Julia Grenier;   Barb & Warren's  friend, Mike, fighting cancer, & Tara;   Bernadette Delgado's mom & Gilberto's mom;   Marilyn Ackerman's brother, Dick, recuperating from a back operation & broken wrists;   Grace LeBlanc's niece Carlin, 13, with hodgkins;  Tom & Teresa Quinn's niece, Chawna, with cancer, plus Neva Flynn, Angel, & Diane Kreeitzer;  Connie Doherty's mom & her sister, plus Kevin's cousin, Peter, & John's dad  in assisted living; Jean Wright's daughter, Mary; Kerry's sister Maura with her second cancer;   Mary Ellen's Christopher, Margaret, & Jim; our friends, sons, & daughters in the military, including Ryan McClurg & Chebino; George & Marianne's sons & Linda's son, plus Stacie & Ben White & their niece with leukemia; a cure for autism from Laura Chollick; Fred's friend John with cancer;  for our President that he have great success and someday hold his grandchildren in his lap.

     

    John 4-1-12

    John with his Greek mother in law, Caliope

     

      Video:   Entrance Procession (4 minutes)  

         

                                                                                                                                        

    Your Finances: April 1, 2012

    Expenses:   $1575.00

    Outreach:   $ 950.00

    Thanks for your Generosity 

     Have a Great Week, J.S (214-783-0443)

     

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth.

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world we live in a better place to live.

                                                                                                                                      

     

  • Reminder for Sunday 4-1-12, Palm Sunday

    Welcome: Coffee & juice & specials on the house

    Time: 9:30; Celebrate with the Community & Stack.   Welcome. 

    Place: Vines High School, 15th between Custer & Independence, south side, Plano.

    Ben 3-30-12

    Ben doing music alone this week

    Mass beginning 3-30-12

    Mass begins

     

    Readings:   John 12, 12-16 (Story of Jesus entry into Jerusalem); Isaiah 50, 4-7, I gave my back to those who beat me; Psalm 22, My God, My God, why have you abandoned me?; Philippians 2, 6-11, He emptied himself, taking the form of a slave; Mark 14, 15, 1-39, The Passion.

     

    Elwells 3-30-12

    George & Marianne

     

    Jenny 3-30-12

    Jenny & Diane with Jenny's friend

     

     Community Bulletin Board:

    1.    March 31, this Saturday, Picnic for Love for the Kids, Flower  Mound, a great service Saturday morning

        2.    Easter Egg hunt after Easter Mass.

        3.    Holy Thursday & Good Friday services, 7:00, Home of Mabel  & Curtis,  2514 Grandview Drive, Richardson 75080  

     

    Sienna 3-30-12

    Sienna

    Reads 3-30-12

    Zack & Taylor

       

        What's going on in our Catholic World:   

    1.  Notre Dame Attack, National Catholic Reporter, March 26, (1000 words),   Download Notre Dame attack 3-30-12 

    2.   Why Catholics Leave, National Catholic Reporter, March 23 (750 words),  Download Why Catholics leave 3-30-12

    3.  Catholic Renewal?, National Catholic Reporter,  March 28 (740 words),  Download Catholic Church Renewal 3-30-12

     

    Offertory 3-30-12

    Offertory, Sir Charles, Maureen, & Fred

    Food Drive 3-30-12

    Food Drive: 250 lbs.

      

    True?

    "In individuals, insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations and epochs, it is the rule."

     Nietzsche

     

    Peanut Butter 3-30-12

    Peanut Butter Anyone?

    Wedding 3-30-12

    Wedding: Kevin Levitt & Jilian, McKinney, White Chapel, Chestnut Square

     

     Video: Rosemary's Blessing (3.5 min.)

         

     See you Sunday, March 25

      214-783-0443

     

                                                                                          

    JSM Mission-Faith Statement   

          Help create a Catholic Community that welcomes all God’s People, provides for & challenges spiritual & total growth 

          Reaches out to help people who are disadvantaged & make the world we live in a better place to live.

     

      

     

     

  • Sunday Homily 3-25-12, 5th Lent

     Readings:   Jeremiah 31, 31-34, I will place my law within them and write it upon their hearts; Psalm 51, Create a clean heart in me, O God; Hebrews 5, 7-9, He learned obedience from what he suffered; John 12, 20-33, Unless a grain of wheat falls to the ground.  Whoever hates his life in this world will preserve it for eternal life.

    Jeremiah:  We have not seen Jeremiah for a long time, since before Thanksgiving.  Remember that he is one of the Big 3 Prophets (because of the size of the work, e.g. 62 chapters in Jeremiah), who are Isaiah, Jeremiah, & Ezekiel.   A review:

     

    Candle Lighting 3-25-12

    Lighting Today's 5 Candles, Sienna & Brian, Brooklyn & Erin

    Author: most of the work is done by Jeremiah’s scribe Baruch.  Jeremiah is described as the broken hearted prophet because of his heart rending life spent warning the people & kings that their behavior was going to be punished.  And so it happened with The Babylonian Captivity.

    Time:  ca. 600 BCE, as an easy date to remember.   The Captivity went from around 585-550 BCE.  Jeremiah may have died in Egypt during The Captivity in Babylon.

    The Scene:  Remember that the Holy Land had a north & a south, Israel & Judah.  First, the northern kingdom, Israel, was defeated by the Assyrians, 622 BCE.  These Hebrew tribes vanish into the DNA of the region, “The Lost Tribes of Israel.”  Next, the Babylonians & Nebuchadnezzar defeat the Assyrians and threaten the southern kingdom, Judah with the capital Jerusalem.  Jeremiah is watching this and seeing it as Yahweh's punishment.  In 596, more or less, the Babylonians do destroy Jerusalem and cart the Hebrews into slavery.

    Today's selection, chapter 31.  Yahweh is promising to make a new covenant or agreement with all the people, and to forgive them, after having shown the people who is master.  Here is the covenant idea mentioned again.  It is a pact or a deal.

    Sources: Fr. Reginald Fuller, St. Louis U., Wikipedia; Answers.com; Encyclopedia of Judaism

     

    Brooklyn 3-25-12

    Brooklyn Walks!

    Hate My Life?

    I have a story this morning which I have told twice, once at St. Mark's, over 8 years ago and here about 4 years ago.  Pardon me if you've heard it. Some of our best stories we tell over & over, they are so poignant.  The story speaks to my point today.  I had permission for the story.

    It happened many years ago when I was working full time as a psychotherapist out of an office at Jesuit.  I think it was the first Monday morning of May.   I know it was a beautiful morning like today.  A boy came to see me who had been in my office on and off for about six years.  He had just graduated from high school and enlisted in the Air Force.  He had struggled since grade school with bouts of depression, and that morning seemed to be in great shape.  We did not even spend more than 30 minutes together, his mood was so up beat and care free.

     

    The Girls 3-25-12

    The Girls, Robyn, Erin & Brooklyn, & Sandra

    He left.  Maybe two or three hours later a call came in.  The boy had left Jesuit, crossed Inwood to the Lincoln Center complex at LBJ, drove up to the top of the four floor garage, parked his car, headed to the edge of the garage, and walked over the side.  He landed on the cement street four floors below, face down flat.

    A passerby saw it, called 911, and in a second the paramedics from just around the corner were on the scene.  He was in Parkland in a flash.  He lived.

    It was not for about 3 weeks until I got to visit him.  He apologized.  I admit I was mad.  I loved this kid.  He fooled me.  He said that he had been in a zone, happy because he knew he was out of there, meaning he was ready to go to the other side.  He wanted to escape the pain of life and go to heaven.  He said he had  no fear in walking off that fourth floor, none of the hesitation you feel before you jump off the high diving board the first time. 

     

    Emma 3-25-12

    Emma & her mom, Beth

    You may guess why I tell this story.  It exemplifies what happens when you take literally "whoever hates his life in this world will preserve it for eternal life."  This little piece of advice, taken the wrong way, can be so dangerous. This boy hated his life.

     I would suggest there is a negative and a positive way to hate my life. 

    The negative is exemplified by this kid's story.  This is often what is happening when you hear of someone cutting on themselves.  If I hate my life and hate myself, I will want to punish myself.  So I cut myself.  Or I may think that I am such a loser that no one will pay me any attention if I do not do something dramatic like spill my blood. 

     

    Sir 3-25-12

    So who's crazier, Sir Charlie or La Reina Patricia

    Even without such dramatic examples, I do not want to encourage someone who hates their body, hates their job, hates their family, hates their school, hates.  Just thinking about this I recoil.   There may be reason for the hatred.  However, "There is a better way," I want to say and I would say it.   I believe in talk therapy.   Feelings are all okay.  I just don’t want some feelings to stay around. 

    On the positive side, I would suggest two things.

    First, the word hate can be considered as hyperbolic, a big word meaning exaggeration.  It is like Rosemary telling me, "You get me up at 5:00 tomorrow morning for spin class & it is divorce!”   Think she is exaggerating?  I hope. 

     

      

    Rich & Mary 3-25-12

    Rich & Mary

    Secondly, I would suggest that this all has to do with being more alive now, in this life. The grain of wheat falling to the ground and dying fits in with this.  For example: look at March Madness.  Many of these player have died to themselves to achieve & to be better players.  How many hours in the gym have they spent practicing free throws?  When they could be hanging out, sleeping in, text messaging?  And they love their lives.  I’ve seen boys do this at Jesuit. 

    Goofy, but I hate my life to love my life.  I don't want to get up early.  I could sleep in to 11:00.  However, I, we, Rosemary & I get up and head over to the Jewish Community Center, 6:00 A.M. spin class.  The result even Rosemary loves  life.  And so do I.

    The boy who jumped is now okay, amazingly.  It took him years of physical recovery.  Two things did not happen that blessed him.  He did not damage his brain and did not damage his spine.  Every other bone, plus his teeth, were broken.  Once he got strong enough he went to medical technical school, got his certificates, and now has good jobs in various hospitals in the city.  I don't think he hates his life anymore.  In fact, he loves it. 

     

    Maureen & Marilyn 3-25-12

    Maureen & Marilyn looking over the enormous food drive

    How do you love your life?

    Sources:  The Center for Liturgy, St. Louis U.; St. Raymond Catholic Church, Dublin, CA; Carmelite Order Web; Homilias Domincales.