Sunday Homily, February 17, 2008, 2nd Lent

Readings: Genesis 12, 1-4; Psalm 33; 2 Timothy 1, 8-10; Matthew 17, 1-9.

Genesis: Like last week we have a selection from Genesis.  I mentioned that 5 main characters make up the book, Adam & Eve (& family), Noah, Abraham, Isaac, & Jacob.  Last week we looked at Adam & Eve & how the author thought bad might have entered the world.

Today we look at how the Jewish people thought their nation came into existence.  Abraham is like George Washington.  He is seen as divinely appointed, just as the people thought they were divinely appointed.  Remember, these events took place ca. 1500 B.C.

Unpack Your Backpack

The last two weeks we talked about two secrets to making a marriage relationship successful.  The first secret was Never Divorce, Murder Often, meaning divorce is a non-negociable, while playful murder is healthy.  Divorce is considered only when the three "A’s" enter: abuse, addiction, adultery.

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Last week we said that there are No Perfect Marriages, only Perfect Moments."  Had any perfect moments this week?  The transfiguration talked about in today’s gospel was a perfect moment.  I would consider the two as synonymous.  Perfect moments are transfigurations.

Today’s secret: Unpack Your Backpack.

What does this mean? 

First, put all your junk out on the ground.  No hidden deals, nothing kept hidden in the backpack.  This junk includes embarrassments, longings, and fears.  Those fears of being rejected, of being stupid and ugly, of heights, of lightning, anything. 

One thing I don’t encourage people to talk about: previous relatiionships.  My idea is that these relationships are no longer lying around in the backpack.  They were dumped out months or years earlier and only create tension if they are brought out and shared with the person I love now. Nothing is accomplished by talking about previous relationships.  In fact, a certain amount of uncertainty can creep in, especially if the person listening is even slightly insecure.

Secondly, the hidden package in the backpack.  What is it?  My defenses.  What does it mean. Disarm.  Lay down thy defenses.  Frustrations and annoyances creep into a relationship.  Not dealt with they become sore spots.  I get hurt, get offensive, get hurt again, then get more defensive.  I become crabby & irritable or passive aggressive.  Passive aggressive means I am really mad, aggressively riled up, but show it by not talking.  This can go on for hours, sometimes days.  I can get into this & Rosemary calls me on it.  Which is a gift.

Occasionally when talking with a couple I find that each one is blaming the other.  Then one will say, "on that occasion, yes, I was passive aggressive."  Or, "Yes, I wanted to hurt you."  When I hear this, I cheer.  The person has just laid down arms. The person has admitted, confessed, let it out of the backpack.  Then a new relationship can begin.

Thirdly, what about frustrations and irritations that creep into the backpack, like I just talked about and that lead to defensive positions?  Don’t bury them in the backpack.  How do I get a place where I can disarm?  Three steps.

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  • Talk about what is frustrating me or irritating me.  A Behavior?  Driving, eating, neatness, responsibility for house chores, and so on.  Use "I" statements as much as possible instead of "You, you, you" statements that blame.  "I’m uncomfortable when…"  This has to be done not in the heat of the irritation, but later when I am peaceful and the setting is peaceful.
  • Then I can make a request for a change.  "Could we talk about driving?"  "I feel scared when…"
  • Next, acceptance. Some things may not get changed.  Then what?  Dump the relationship or be defensive all my life or accept?  I cannot expect all the behavior changes to be changed.  Thus, I got to change, if I want to have a relationship.  Acceptance of the other has to be part of a relationship, whether between spouses or friends.

As I mentioned last week this is pertinent to friendships, just as much as marriages.

With whom do I have this kind of relationship and how am I keeping my backback clean?

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    Sunday Homily, July 7, 2019, 14th Ordinary Time

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    Says John, "Welcome in, Everybody."

     

    Readings:

    Isaiah 66, 10-14, As a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you.  (Isaiah at his best)

    Psalm 66,  Let all the earth cry out to God with joy

    Galatians  6, 14-18,  Peace and mercy be to all.

    Luke 10, 1-12, 17020,  Peace to this household.

     

     

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    Isaiah  observations:  

    The scene:  the people are now back in Jerusalem, a destroyed Jerusalem.  Isaiah is attempting to put a positive spin on everything.  After all that took place in the Babylonian captivity, Cyrus has defeated the Babylonians and released the Jewish people to return to Jerusalem.

    This chapter 66 is the last of the whole book and the work of the third Isaiah.

    The Psalm.  Can this be true?  The Psalm is also 66.  It is beautiful and positive.  Can religion be better?

     

     

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    Ron reads our Blessing of the Summer Candles.

     

    Why I am still proud to be an American

    This morning in honor of July 4, I want to share why I am still proud to be an American.  I have 4 little vignettes.  

    The first took place when I was in Tanzania giving a retreat or seminar to a small group of delightful Dutch religious sisters.  We were at a mission on the outskirts of a little town called Morogoro.  A thief got into my room, which was a fixed up shipping container on the edge of the compound, while I was having breakfast.  I lost my passport & a few small things. 

     

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    So, I had to go to the American Embassy in Dar es Salaam, the capitol.  The staff did not hassle me, but treated me like a fellow traveler.  I remember feeling, first, a sense of security and, secondly, a sense of being proud to be connected with a country which was a dream country to so many Tanzanians.

     

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    Happy 57th Anniversary, Marilyn & Ron.

     

    Secondly, Iowa and the marvelous week long 500 mile bike ride the end of this month.  30k people riding from the MO River to the MS River.  The atmosphere is so friendly and fun. 

    Amid all the camaraderie, the event that always touches me the most is the Amish concession.  Not just because I can buy a piece of pie (about 5 varieties) for 3-4 $$’s and a huge spoonful of vanilla ice cream being made right there under the tent for another 2-4 $$’s,  It is the fact that in America a group like the Amish can live and thrive. 

     

     

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    My Dearest Carrie, I remember you as a sweet, pretty little girl from our days at St. Marks.  Now look at you, a pretty girl and a doctor.  I'm impressed and delighted for you.

     

     

    I will miss seeing my buddy Henry, the pie vendor, a guy about 24 years old and very friendly.  I will miss renewing our friendship.  He even loaned me the money once when I forgot my money.

    I ride Iowa’s Ragbrai, I am proud to be a crazy American like all the crazies around me.

     

     

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    Aggie, this is fortification for the rework of your knee.  May it be successful and bring you peace. 

     

    Thirdly, our neighborhood picnic and parade.  So many kids, so many families, so many dogs, so many families of color. Rosemary  is the refreshment czar and hosts the most popular concession on the campus of the Preston Hollow Elementary, where the disk jockey rides, where the fire truck begins the parade, and where face painting and animal petting all can be found.

    Want to know how popular Rosemary is?   I was instructed to pick up 24 dozen donut holes to go with chocolate chip cookies from Costco and grapes in plastic cups.   How many donut holes left over?  Zip, zero, nada.

    A dozen times during the morning I am touched to be there.  I am proud to be part of America and I am proud of Rosemary.

     

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    Listen everyone.  Connie & John are going to visit Bill in Pagosa Springs.   Therefore, what a better way to show Bill our appreciation for his hospitality for Rosemary & me.  Enjoy it, Bill.

     

    Finally, remember the Mays when Rosemary & I would join her delightful family to do the Ride New York?  While there we would take the marvelous Staten Island Ferry (still FREE!), and pass by the Statue of Liberty, a gift from the French.

     

    On that statue is the following sonnet:

    Give me your tired, your poor,

    Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,

    The wretched refuse of your teaming shore.

    Send these, the homeless, tempest tossed to me.

    I lift my lamp beside the Golden Door.

     

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    It takes a team.  Especially because we are color coordinated.

  • Sunday Homily for November 25, 2018, Christ the King, B cycle

    • Intro to Readings:
       
      Psalm 103 – In Psalm 103 we hear the psalmist’s description
      of God. This same verse is also in psalm 86 and 145, and in Exodus
       
      Ch 34 and Jonah Ch 4. It’s no wonder that, hearing these words,
      thanksgiving became one of the hallmarks of Christian communities.
       
      First Corinthians: Ch 1 Paul opens his letter to the
      Christian community in Corinth by giving thanks for the
      abundance of spiritual blessings they have received.
       
      Luke, in his Gospel, Ch 17, highlights how thanksgiving is
      the way to acknowledge blessings in our daily lives.
       
       
       
      Homily:
       
      Marv Knox is field coordinator for Fellowship Southwest, a
      ministry that provides services for people in the Rio Grande
      Valley, including refugees at the border, kids in public schools,
      disaster relief, and helping people avoid the unjust system of
      payday loans. His article in the Morning News on Friday inspired
      me. He wrote of the similarity between giving thanks and counting
      blessings. He proposes counting our blessings, as we do here
      every Sunday. People pretty much agree we’ve been living
      through hard times.
       
      It’s clear we are a nation divided. Some are still waiting to
      know the outcome of political races; when people are
      divided almost 50-50, counting and re-counting votes takes
      a lot of time.
      We’re still hearing of the forest-fire body counts, with
      hundreds still missing and unaccounted for.
      Refugees the world over, and at our own border, are hoping
      and asking for safety from danger.
      The chaos in Europe and confusion in our western alliance.
      Experiencing the results of global warming, with increased
      intensity and frequency of storms, floods and fires.
      The dropping and shaky stock market.
      The threat again of nuclear aggression from North Korea.
      These hard times, of course, are societal, shared by all;
      there are also the personal hard times we each live with,
      e.g., living with my sisters’ hurt and inability to speak with
      one another. You know your hard time—the anxiety, hurt,
      sadness or trauma you live with.
       
      Counting blessings moves our focus from the dark to the light.
      It helps us see what’s going right, even while we know much is
      going wrong.
       
      Counting blessings turns our attention away from ourselves to
      acknowledge the helpful actions of others.
       
      Counting blessings gives us hope. As we count blessings—
      and give thanks—we see that God is unchanging—ever faithful,
      loving, and abounding in kindness.
       
      Today, like every Sunday, we counted blessings in our lives.
      Imagine, rather than writing his letter to the Christian community
      in Corinth (Greece), Paul wrote to this Christian community,
      saying: I give thanks for your openness to God. There’s no end to
      what has happened in you; it’s beyond speech. The truth of Jesus
      has been clearly verified in your lives…. God will never give up on
      you. Never forget that.”
       
      So: How have you opened your eyes and minds to see and count
      blessings in your life?
  • Sunday Homily, July 8, 2007, 14 of the Year

    Readings: Isaiah 66, 10-14; Psalm 66; Galatians 6, 14-18; Luke 10, 1-20.

    Isaiah: The scene is this. The Israelites are enslaved in Babylon, which was in today’s Iraq, about 60 miles south of Bagdad, now called Al Hilah. Isaiah is telling the people that the day is coming when they will live again in Jerusalem. 

    What a Gift Community

    When I used to say Masses before we gathered here I was really spoiled. I would walk into St. Mark’s, for instance, put on my robes, celebrate the Mass, and depart, or go over and goof around with Duffy & Rita in the rectory. I had everything prepared before I walked out on the alter and everything was cleaned up after I left. 

    The first time we celebrated here, I remember thinking how many little things have to be taken care of. I got to get my own robes, set up an altar, provide bread & wine, and so on. 

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    The past two weeks I have been especially touched and moved by the community extending itself.

    Last Sunday you may remember that we had the summer blood drive. I thought the numbers might be down. It is summer, after all. Yet, on the contrary, after Mass as I was preparing to depart with Rosemary & Naomi, I passed by the blood mobile. I had hoped we might reach 20 donors, though I was prepared for less. The nurses told me they had already received over 21 and I saw about 3 to 4 people waiting. I was stunned.  And grateful.

    The second amazing event took place yesterday when a group of about 15 showed up to put a roof on a home. I had spotted the need for this some time ago. I contacted Lynda & Tom to see if they could induce Habitat to help us. They only build new housing, however, and recommended we contact Lake Point Baptist, because they do renovations. 

    Through that contact we met this marvelous guy named Alex Moore, quiet, serene, skilled, and hard working. Alex, who is retired and from MN, actually came over by himself Wednesday & Thursday to augur, set, and cement about 15 4 by 4’s to hold up the roof. He did this so we could all work together Saturday. And did we work. Laying roofing tiles over black tar paper in the afternoon sun was like sitting on a hot frying pan. 

    I had to depart the project at 3:00 to get ready for a 6:00 wedding, and the last thing Alex asked me was, "We working next Saturday?" He was ready & wants to finish the job.

    This is a gift community. And this is saying nothing about your weekly generosity.

    Thanks. 

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  • Sunday Homily, June 12, 2016, 11th Sunday Ordinary Time

    Readings:                          

    2 Samuel   12,  7-10, 13, David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.”

    Psalm 32,  Lord, forgive the wrong I have done.

    Galatians 2, 16, 19-21     A person is not justified by work or the law

    Luke 7, 36-8, 3,  The woman who bathed the feet of Jesus and dried them with her hair.

     

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    2 Samuel observations: (Following upon last week)

    What :  2 Samuel is the second book in a 4 book semi-history of the early tribe of Israelites.  The books, 1 & 2 Samuel, 1 & 2 Kings.  The story goes from Samuel, the last of the judges, to Saul, the first of the kings, to King David (with Goliath, Jonathan, Mikah and dancing, Bathsheba & Solomon).

    The two books of Samuel focus on Saul & David and their difficult relationship.

     

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    When composed:   during the Babylonian Captivity, ca. 555 before Christ.  Why at this time?  Same reason why so much was composed at this time, to explain why the Captivity, to keep the tribal identity, and to provide hope for a brighter future.

    Who composed:   Tradition said Jeremiah the prophet, but contemporary studies show at least 3 writers.

    Today's selection:  the prophet Nathan is chastising King David because he has been really bad.  See the homily, a Bible story today.

    SourcesNew Jerusalem Bible, Wikipedia

     

     

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    This morning I would like to tell a bible story.  It is about the great Jewish hero, King David.  I tell the story because it is background to today’s first reading from 2 Samuel.  More than likely you have not a clue about where today’s passage is coming from.

    Here we go.  This is the way the composers put it together, not necessarily how it was.

     

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    There was a man named Jesse who had 8 sons.  Samuel, the last of the judges is sent by Yahweh to find a successor to Saul, the present king who is misbehaving and Yahweh has decided to reject him. 

    Read about Saul and you can’t help but see bipolar symptoms.

     

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    So Samuel goes to Bethlehem to the house of Jesse, who has 8 of sons.  The first 7 pass by and Yahweh tells Samuel, "Not this one."   Eventually number 8 comes in, Little David.   When Samuel sees him, Yahweh tells him, “That’s the one.”

    So, David is especially chosen by Yahweh, a hero quality.

    David goes to Saul’s court and becomes a favorite.  Then in a fight with the Philistines, little David kills the giant Goliath.  Another hero quality.

     

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    Time goes on, Saul gets jealous because David is so popular and he decides to kill him.  The second part of 1 Samuel details all the struggles between Saul and David.  David even has a chance to kill a sleeping Saul in a cave, but he simply cuts off a piece of his cloak to show Saul later.  Saul cries, swears he will stop trying to kill David, but then continues.  David’s mercy, another hero quality.

    Time goes on, Saul actually commits suicide, and David becomes the popular king of the Jewish nation.  His army is defeating all their enemies.

     

     

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    One morning our hero king is strolling on the roof of his palace.  While walking he spies a beautiful woman on another roof taking a bath.  He invites her over for dinner and, behold, she becomes pregnant.  David is already married to Saul’s daughter, Michal, but Yahweh has rejected her because she mocked David for dancing before the people in a victory parade.  The woman, Bathsheba. 

    So David decides to invite Bathsheba’s husband to dinner.  Her husband, Uriah, is with the army in the field.   David gets him drunk and tells him to go home to his wife.  Then Uriah will assume that Bashsheba’s baby is his. 

     

     

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    However, Uriah tells David he won’t sleep under a roof while his men are sleeping in the field.  So that plan won’t work. 

    Then David tells his commander to put Uriah on the front line, get into a battle, then pull the other men back, leaving Uriah.  So Uriah is killed.

     So David, our hero king, invites Bathsheba to join his household. 

    At this point the prophet Nathan of our story is told by Yahweh to visit David.   Nathan tells David a little story.

     

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    There were two men, a rich man who had everything, large flocks and every convenience.  The second man, a neighbor had nothing more than a little lamb which he had bought.  The man loved the lamb and even slept with it.

    Two visitors come to the rich man’s house.  Instead of preparing a meal from one of his own lambs, the rich man takes the poor man’s lamb for his meal.  Nathan asks David what should happen to that rich man.  David says he should be severely punished. 

     Nathan says, “You are that rich man!”   David is stunned and goes into penance and mourning.  This is where our story comes in.  All this happened before our little reading.

     

     

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    A lesson?   Even the hero, the chosen of Yahweh, fails and commits sin.  We are all King Davids.   

    Lesson 2: Yahweh forgives and accepts.  This theme is exemplified by our gospel, the woman bathing Jesus’ feet with her tears.  Forgiveness and acceptance.

    I would suggest it also involves self forgiveness and self acceptance when we fail to be what we would like ourselves to be.

     

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    David was accepted by Yahweh and Bathsheba, although she loses her first child with David, goes on to have another son, who is considered the ancestor of Jesus.

    How good is your self acceptance?

     

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  • Sunday Homily, March 25, 2018, Palm Sunday

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    Readings(for Palm Sunday)

    Entrance procession: Mark 11, 1-10,  Entry with palms

     Isaiah 50, 4-7, I gave my back to those who beat me.

    Psalm 22,  My God, my God, why have you abandoned me.

     Philippians 2, 6-11,  He emptied himself.

    Mark  14 & 15, The Passion

     

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    We had no homily nor Creed today because of the length of the service.

     

     

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    Jud & Erica are originally from Dallas.  They met in Seattle, where they both worked, Erica in nursing.  They now live & work in Honolulu.

  • Sunday Homily, August 23, 21st Ordinary Time

    Readings:

     Joshua 24, 1-2, 15-18, Far be it from us to forsake the Lord.

    Psalm 34,    Taste and see the goodness of the Lord.

    Ephesians 5, 21-32,   Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord.

    John 6, 60-69, There are some of you who do not believe.

     

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    Joshua:

    Who is Joshua and what is this booklet about:  Joshua was Moses' assistant, his lieutenant when the the Israelites wandered in the desert.  The booklet is the story of the Israelite invasion of Canaan under Joshua's leadership. 

    Author: somewhat amusingly, the fundamentalists say that Joshua wrote most of the booklet.  More scientific scholars say the work is a compilation of a number of sources.

     

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    Date of composition: again fundamentalists state that the booklet was composed 1400-1370, i.e., while Joshua lived.  Scholars of a broader vision suggest that even if a Joshua existed the work was put together 800-700 BCE. 

    The work combines a number of traditions about battles & destruction of cities to create a nationalistic narrative that justifies the Israelites' taking another peoples' land for their own.

    Ethical Question: genocide.  This is a bloody book.  Yahweh commands that the Israelites exterminate every breathing thing, including women & children & livestock. 

     

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    The battle of Jericho is characteristic.  For 6 days the Israelites marched around the city, blowing horns and menacing the people.  On day 7 they marched around 7 times and the walls came tumbling down, as in the spiritual.  Then every person except one woman & her family were slaughtered.  Lots of debate and rationalization over these events.

    Our Selection: The last chapter of the booklet.  Joshua, who is dying, calls the people together at a place called Sechem and puts it to them.  Stick with Yahweh who has done all these things for you (which are mentioned in the text but are long & tedious) or choose another path of your own.

    Sources: Good News Bible, Got Questions.org, Wikipedia

     

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    Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord

    Sounds good to me, Folks.   However, when I bring this up to Rosemary, what do I get?  “Want to start sleeping in the back yard dog kennel tonight?  Even my mom was not impressed with this little statement of Paul.  Just ask my poor dad. 

    And guess what: I married my mom.  So much for the joy of being a married priest.

     

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    "Anybody planning a race over here?"  "No thank you.  We would rather sleep while that old geezer goes on talking."

     

    Some years ago while I was waiting in a line to ride the roller coaster at 6 Flags I overheard a husband telling his wife to obey him because of this passage, he was the head of the house and the Bible says it.  I almost dropped my teeth. 

    The family, mom, dad, and two young girls were trying to decide something.  Finally, even the wife says to the girls that they have to obey the man.  He is the head.

    So, how do we handle this, especially when we are repelled by the idea?

     

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    Perspective!   Traditionally there are three types of family relationships.  This is fairly simple.

        1.  Matriarchal: the woman/wife is the head of the family.  Culturally this has been established occasionally and in some places.

        2.  Patriarchal: the husband is the head. 

        3.  Equality: both are partners, husband and wife. 

     

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    Paul's place:  guess which paradigm Paul comes from?  Paul lives in a culture which considered women & children little more than domestic animals.  In Tanzania I found the same paradigm among the ordinary people.  This paradigm has been followed more probably  because men are physically stronger and don’t hesitate to maintain control with physical violence.

    Even though today Paul can sound wako & chauvanistic, what he says about husbands loving their wives as they love their own bodies, this was pretty radical.

     

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    Today: all three of the paradigms are valid.  Among most educated people, however, equality between husband & wife, men & women is the more healthy.    Besides, as we know, women just won’t let us guys get away with it. 

    Certainly with education for both men and women, there is equality.  And just this week, two women passed the Army Ranger training program. 

     

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    So, again, beware of taking the Bible literally.  Check our blog from last Thursday to find some other interesting biblical statements.   Like beating your kids.

    What paradigm do you prefer???

     

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              And keeping us all together, Mary, Bethany, and Ray.