Sunday Homily 8-1-10, 18th Ordinary Time

Readings:  Ecclesiastes 1, 2; 2, 21-23; Psalm 90, If Today You hear his Voice, Harden not your Hearts; Colossians, 3, 1-11; Luke 12, 13-21

 

Eighteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time – Intro to Readings

 

 

Our first reading is from the Book of Ecclesiastes, which makes up some of the Wisdom literature.   The book is concerned with the purpose and value of human life. While admitting the existence of a divine plan, it considers such a plan to be hidden from man, who seeks happiness without ever finding it here on earth. 

 

Mass 8-1-10

 

The authorship has been attributed to Solomon, but that was just to get the book some credence.  It was written long after Solomon, around 250-150 BCE.  One could easily conclude that the book is rather pessimistic, as in its opening which we read today, “vanity of vanities, all is vanity”, and it concludes in chapter 12 with the following:  “The last word, when all is heard: “Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is man's all; because God will bring to judgment every work, with all its hidden qualities, whether good or bad.” 

 

 

This book is also the source of those well known lines from chapter 4:  “There is an appointed time for everything, and a time for every affair under the heavens.  A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to uproot the plant.”

 

Nikki 8-1-10

 

Our second reading is the last for some time from Paul’s Letter to the Colossians.

 

 

The Gospel continues with Jesus’ journey up to Jerusalem.  The opening verse, which is omitted from the start of today’s reading, is worth noting:  “Meanwhile, so many people were crowding together that they were trampling one another underfoot.”  Luke is introducing the sense that things are starting to get serious.  And the reality is that the topic today is a serious one.

Celeste 8-1-10
 

 

Eighteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time – Homily

 

 

There are two topics, which I believe are related in today’s readings:

 

 

1.    Where is God in your priorities?

2.    What date is the anniversary of your death?

 

 

 

I believe that the topics are connected if you have faith.  Because you are all here, I feel I am somewhat preaching to the choir, but maybe the question is still valid.  How much of a priority is God in your life?

 

 

 

Let me start back with the second question, by telling a story about a job I used to have.  I worked in the pathology dept of a local hospital and one day there was an autopsy of a fairly young person.  What struck me that particular day was seeing the person’s clothes on the floor in the corner.  They had put them on themselves that morning, never thinking that someone else would be removing them later in the day!! 

 

 

 

We really don’t know when that anniversary date will be, which will be marked in other people’s calendars about us.  There are a couple of lines in the responsorial psalm worth paying attention to:

“Teach us to number our days aright

that we may gain wisdom of heart”

 

 

 

Because if we do know how to number our days properly, then that anniversary date won’t be a problem.  And this brings me to the first topic.  If we have God high up in our priorities, then our lives will be lived in a very different way.  One extreme example of someone for whom God was everything was Mother Theresa.  Meeting her was an experience I will never forget.  On the other extreme are folks who have loads of money.  They have many worries about how it is invested, what next to purchase, all in the pursuit of the ever-illusive “happiness”. 

 

Mass Helpers 8-1-10

 

If we live by the two great commandments, Love God and Love Neighbor, then I believe our lives will not suffer from the complaint in our first reading.  All will not be vanity!

 

 

 

Picture 1:   Rosemary's Blessing

 

Picture 2:   Nikki with her grandmom, Mary, at offertory

 

Picture 3:   Celeste

 

Picture 4:   Altar Helpers

 

 

 

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    The Wedding of Sarah & Beth (Rosemary's niece), Saturday, Mechanicsburg, PA, United Church of Christ, with ministers Karen and John, plus about 200 friends and supporters.

     

    Todays readings talk about God’s love for his people, in Exodus about Moses and in Mark about Jesus’ expressions of love with his friends.  The words of Jesus (“This is my body”; “this is my blood)” were an established ritual formula repeated in early Christian gatherings as part of their remembrance of Jesus and the Passover he shared with them before he died.  Mark’s Gospelwas the first, written about 25-30 years after Jesus’ death.  Even before Mark, Paul was writing in his letters about our being the body of Christ and about our being intimately united with him.

    In the homily I want to take this opportunity to talk some about special human relationships, couples in partnership or marriage.  

     

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    Two very hospitable ministers, Karen & John.  Note the bare feet, out of reverence for the sanctuary.

     

    Homily:   Last Sunday Stack talked about relationship and how Christian theology refers to God one, and yet as Father, Son and Holy Spirit, three persons in relationship.  After I planned to talk about Corpus Christi today, I spent over 8 hours yesterday at a workshop with over 200 couples.  Most of them were married couples married anywhere from only 4 months to 45 years; some were engaged. The event is called “Safe  Conversation” and is led by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt.  

    It is based on the new science of couple relationships or marriage.  

    1)  Brain science:  At the time scientists had already mapped out the known world on the outside, Sigmund Freud was mapping out the inner world, the human mind and the unconscious.  His emphasis was on the individual.  It wasn’t till the 1990’s that neuroscientists began to map the brain and better understand its workings, especially the notion of neuroplasticity, that the brain is changeable by means of the thoughts we run through it.  

    The brain has a ‘mind of its own’.   The lower/primitive brain (brain stem) is in place to protect and defend (like a crocodile).  Anxiety and fear are triggered when any  danger is sensed.  Can order production of cortisol and adrenalin to help protect and defend, and from which we can experience fear and anxiety.  The higher/newer brain (frontal cortex) is in place to think and analyze, cooperate and create (like a wise owl).   Can order production of endorphins, dopamine from which we can experience joy.  

     

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                                                              Leo, the candle lighter at work.

                                                                                                                            

    2)  Marriage research: We now know you can’t effectively help a couple in relationship by trying to ‘fix’ one of partners; rather, must provide healing work on the space between the partners, the relationship behaviors themselves.  We also know that negativity is a high predictor of relationship distress and of risk for divorce. Negativity is a natural stage of relationship, when we wake up and find out our partner is different from us or doesn’t match our ideal dream partner.

    3)  Safe Conversation:  The key component, which anyone can learn, is to practice ‘safe conversation’ again and again and again and again.  Safe conversation provides what it implies, safety.  It calms the crocodile and reduces negativity.  It does this through the structure of the conversation. This allows the couple to again experience deep joy and aliveness as they did in the first stage of their relationship.

    Question:   Are you up to date on the new science of relationship?  And How are you at eliminating negativity in your relationships? These couple workshops are provided currently with no fee, and include childcare and breakfast and lunch.  In addition there are child and teen programs offered at the same time so families are on same page in the process. Stack posted information on the last two workshops in his blog.I don’t know when the next one will be, but I invite you to look at their  web site – www.familywellnessdallas.org